I won't go into details, it still really hurts to talk about it. I will say, he did NOT cheat on me in any way. What he did was just as bad. I was holding all this hurt inside and yesterday I told my aunt about it, she literally wanted to kill him. It's really bad what he did. I was hurt so bad I couldn't even breath and I had an anxiety attack. He destroyed my trust in him. He has cried and begged me to forgive him and I can't, it just happened 4 days ago. I don't know if I can forgive him for hurting me that bad. I may forgive what he did but not forgive him for hurting me. He completely disregardedmy feelings, sold me out as if I was a prostitute. I was disrespected and degraded. He also, on top of everything else, felt the need to blab that I was violently raped in the past, to someone I didn't even know. He killed my trust. Now, he flips back and forth between, not knowing what he did wrong, to begging me to forgive him, to telling me that I need to forget it and move on. His main excuse is that he's a man, not all men treat their wives in that way. He says he loves me and that he's deeply sorry, but those are just words. I told him to prove that he's sorry and that he has to earn my trust back. He wants to know how he can earn my trust back and to prove hes sorry, but I don't know how he can. I have started isolating myself, not talking to family and friends like I used to, I have completely withdrawn myself. I no longer enjoy the things I did before. I don't know what to do. My heart is broken and I can't believe he completely destroyed my trust in that manner. He promised he'd never hurt me and he did. My aunt told me to lay down some rules for him to earn back my trust. I don't know of any rules to make. Help? He won't get marriage counseling.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:17 PM on Aug. 4, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 5:20 PM on Aug. 4, 2011
I'm so sorry, I don't have any advice, I just wanted to say I hope everything works out for you. Whatever he did, I hope he doesn't do anything like it again.
Answer by Angelic-Renewal at 5:21 PM on Aug. 4, 2011
Answer by MeandMyBabes at 5:23 PM on Aug. 4, 2011
I am so sorry hun. I am not sure what you hubby did but it sounds terrible. What you did mention was bad enough though...him telling anyone else that you were raped was so out of libe. That is not for him to announce to anyone, ever. You say he says he will do what he needs to to earn your trust back? Obviously he isn't willing to do ANYTHING or he would be willing to seek counseling with you. Maybe you could do it on your own? Maybe a counselor could help you learn to trust your hubby again...give you some tools or direction in that regards? Good luck. Hugs.
Answer by zoomomto3 at 5:24 PM on Aug. 4, 2011
Answer by -Leesah at 5:29 PM on Aug. 4, 2011
Answer by tntmom1027 at 5:35 PM on Aug. 4, 2011
Answer by MeandMyBabes at 6:10 PM on Aug. 4, 2011
Answer by ChicagoVal at 7:53 PM on Aug. 4, 2011