My Dh and I are both in our late twenties with 3 kids of our own and we recently acquired 2 more teens when we got legal custody of his brother and sister last month. It was due to the fact that their mom went to prison for drug charges. We just couldn't let family go to foster care, so we took them in. They are 13 and 14 and out of control. Sneaking out, swearing, calling us names, and just this week stealing from us. I finally through much begging convinced Dh that we need to get a grip on the situation and he FINALLY agreed. But now to that point I feel guilty for laying rules down and being harsh on them. I just don't even think its my place to do so, but not sure. I just can't handle it. Should I just let dh handle all of that, and am I wrong for feeling guilty? I mean when kids have gone through such a tough and horrible home situation, should we just let them be at this point for fear of making matters worse?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:52 AM on Dec. 22, 2008 in General Parenting
Answer by Anonymous at 11:56 AM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by ANGIE409 at 11:57 AM on Dec. 22, 2008
Don't feel guilty. I admire both of you for stepping in and taking care of them. It's horrible that they have to go through that but they also need rules and boundaries set. Continue to work together.
Answer by Christine0813 at 11:57 AM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by TiccledBlue at 11:58 AM on Dec. 22, 2008
It doesn't matter what they have went threw. They still need some sort of structure and discipline in their lives. They need rules to go by and your the mom and dad right now. Don't feel guilty. They will feed on it, teens know how to work parents.. GL
Answer by louise2 at 11:58 AM on Dec. 22, 2008
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