any one gone thru this, we have a little girl i still love him, Im so torn, im not sure what to do, im a wreck. hes cheated on me while away in korea. and here at home, found out thru aim, and found pics of penises on his computer. says he was expirementing, but that he loves me, want to make it work, but how do i know.. this is soooo fucked up!
Asked by Anonymous at 2:36 PM on Dec. 22, 2008 in Relationships
Goodness. That's a lot to process right now. First of all. I think I would have to go get tested for any STD's or HIV. You can only hope that he used protection. And yes, i would still suggest this if he had cheated on you with a female.
Then, I would go to counseling. Both of you. This is a very tough situation. You can't compete with another "male" and give him what he might be needing in that department.
You know, my first thought was, "I would leave him and move on." But I know that is easier said than done and I'm not standing in your shoes.
I would for sure cut off any sexual activity until you know what is really going on.
I wish you two the very best.
Answer by Southerncharmes at 2:43 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
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Answer by Kenzies_momma at 2:51 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
I assume you don't have family or friends to take you and your daughter in? I would go straight to your social services and apply for emergency housing. Also, do you get child support for your daughter from the biological dad? If not, file for CS to help with expenses. If you can't find the father then file for Welfare and let the state track him down for you, in the mean time...you get a check for your child. Also, apply for food stamps. This is only temporary until you can get back onto your feet.
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