How can I help my kids feel safe? Yesterday at 5AM we had a prowler outside my children's bedroom window. My ex-h just got out of prison a month ago for raping me in front of my kids. I called my lawyer and she is telling me to get a gun - so I am working on the paperwork. Where I live, I can get a permit to carry a concealed weapon. Thankfully, my SO is a volunteer with the sherrif's dept so they are on alert. I called the PO for my ex and he did a body check and he is where he is sposed to be - now. Wouldn't be too hard for him to have snuck here and left and be back home now.
Answer by Babylove76 at 3:15 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
You asked this earlier this morning. 12 people answered you including me. We must not have gave you good answers? Like I said earlier get an alarm system.
Answer by louise2 at 3:23 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by Babylove76 at 3:32 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by sammiesmom2000 at 3:38 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by Babylove76 at 3:42 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by feesharose at 3:47 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
What kind of relationship do they have with him? IMO, counseling would be a great place to start to help them realize that even though they love their dad (if they have a good relationship with him), he has done some pretty bad things and you don't necessarily have to go into detail with your younger two if you don't think they are ready or old enough to process it. I went through something similar with the BF of my older two children with him being abusive. He too sexually assaulted me. However, my children were too young and never witnessed the abuse. But because yours have, I would get them talking to someone NOW because it's when they see it, that they are at a higher risk for repeating it (for boys) and allowing it to happen to them (for girls). Hope this helps some.
Answer by LovingParent08 at 4:06 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by ria7 at 4:20 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by companygoddess at 4:48 PM on Dec. 22, 2008
Answer by companygoddess at 4:49 PM on Dec. 22, 2008