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Would it bother you if your husband called his ex wife on her birthday to say happy birthday?

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Asked by Aleciawalton at 8:15 PM on Dec. 23, 2008 in Relationships

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  • That depends on alot of things-are they friends? is he just a really nice guy who didn't want her to be hurt on her bday? does he know it would bug you? did he hide it from you?I would probably be ok with it once I questioned him about every word said lol. Try to look at it like you just have a very thoughtful guy who even tho he may not be in love with her anymore(he chose you right?), he still respects her enough to say that to her. i think that is a good thing because I worry about a man who goes from love to hate with someone kwim? those guys are dangerous.

    Answer by Bearsjen at 8:20 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • Nope! Not in ANY situation would it bother me. Its polite.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:24 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • Wouldn't bother me matter if it's the first, second, or third wife, as long as he rememebers the fourth (me), lol.

    Answer by rhope4 at 8:25 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • Not unless he forgot my birthday.

    Answer by tropicalmama at 8:37 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • No it wouldnt bother me

    Answer by scaredmommy08 at 8:47 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • Yes if I thought he didn't have anything to do with her anymore. No if I knew they still had some kind of interaction still like if they had kids together or something. But that's reason number 3928309213 why I wouldn't want to be a 2nd (or 3rd, 4th, 5th...) wife. And why I didn't want to marry anybody who already had kids!

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:55 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • it might bother me a little but if he is doing it just to be nice and not to make you upset- it's alright.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:55 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • My DH has lunch with his ex every year for her birthday. They have been doing this since they divorced, maybe 20+ years ago. We've been married over 15 years, and my kids call her Auntie Barbara.

    Answer by mancosmomma at 9:07 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • I would have mixed feelings about it. Part of me would be very upset about it, but then again, if they are still friends, have kids together, keep in touch, then I would be alright with it.

    Answer by emmymattylucy08 at 9:15 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

  • Hell yes it would.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:59 PM on Dec. 23, 2008

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