(the husband thing doesn't improve with age...mine's 38. UGH)
As for the kids listening...make sure you have their attention first....make eye contact. Tell them what you want them to do. If they don't do it, put them in time out. Let them out of time out when they are ready to do what they were told. If they don't go do what they were told, they go right back into time out. Once they get out of time out and do what is expected of them, tell them "Thank you for doing what you were told/what was expected" with a big hug. (behavior modification from my oldest son's psychologist...worked GREAT for my 2 year old!! )
Keep in mind...there is a difference between telling and asking. Kids know when it's a question..."will you....." and will answer the question yes or no. If you WANT them to do it..don't ask. Tell them.
at 6:10 AM on Dec. 25, 2008