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Do you think this is neglect?

A four year old boy that is 41 inches tall and weighs 50 pounds which puts him ABOVE AND BEYOND the 95th percentile meaning that 99% of boys his age weigh less then him, has cellulite on his chest and stomach, has man boobs and fatty rolls but mom keeps feeding him McDonalds on a daily basis despite his father pleading with her to stop? What should dad do?

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Asked by MiiSSHiiSCAMP0S at 4:09 PM on Dec. 26, 2008 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Yes I think in a way it is a form of neglect since this could seriously damage the child and give it health problems in the future. I think the father should maybe prepare meals for the boy just to show the mother that he is serious?

    Answer by tripletmomtobe at 4:11 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • Sorry I forgot to say that mom and dad are separated and dad only sees the boy every other weekend

    Answer by MiiSSHiiSCAMP0S at 4:15 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • Dad should step in in a big way. The rate of childhood diabetes and heart problems has skyrocketed in this country and allowing your child to consume greasy, fatty bi product on a daily basis is not a good thing at all. It's one thing to allow a happy meal on an occasional basis but not as a substitute for wholesome meals. Tell the father to google childhood obesity and have the mother look at some of the facts. Maybe that will scare her straight.


    Answer by micrespo at 4:20 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • Well if hes aiming to try and take custody then no it isnt. He will need something from a medical professional saying the child will fall over dead if he continues. Or that he has diabetis or something like that. His health should be looked into either way and dad can take the child to a pediatrician himself and see if he doesnt have any issues contributing to his weight besides fast food.

    Answer by gemgem at 4:20 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • How does the father know that the mom is feeding him McDonald's daily? He isn't that overweight to be honest.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:28 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • The child should have a medical evaluation and the father should step in from there.

    Answer by Bmat at 4:31 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • Actually he's in the 75th percentile

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:34 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • Hmm. I think it sounds 75% is correct. Dad needs to have a long talk with mom though because that food is still unhealthy. Is Dad a good example? If not, he needs to start there. If so, he needs to ask her to do some thingns to help the situation and hope it does the trick. See a nutritionist and a trainer with him and their son. It can be videos or books too but meeting in person gives opportunity to address individual obstacles to good health. The professionals can also help set goals for 30 days, 3 months, 6 months and a year and give witness to moms efforts and son's progress.

    Answer by happi-ladi at 4:46 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • He is above the 95th percentile ANON 4:24pm. Check again

    Answer by MiiSSHiiSCAMP0S at 4:49 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

  • Every time dad drops him off mom has a Happy Meal and the boy tells his father what he eats everyday.

    Answer by MiiSSHiiSCAMP0S at 4:50 PM on Dec. 26, 2008

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