My 12 yr old daughter saw some kids drinking what she came to find out was gin at school in class. She enlisted a friend to go to the principal and tell. The drinking kids were suspended. My daughter's friend's mom thinks our kids will be ostracized forever. My daughter is clueless to the social implications and did what she thought was right. She ended up with a black eye the same day when two kids 'accidentally' slammed a locker into her face. My daugher sees no connection and I don't want to make her cynical but I do want her to understand that there may be unforeseen consequences to her decision. It is hard to tell kids No Drugs, No Alcohol, No Weapons, No Tobacco and then tell them to MYOB. How do I handle this? My sister says watch Mean Girls with her and then discuss. I am supporting her decision but maybe should have said more?Answer Question
Answer by Jazak at 2:27 AM on Dec. 28, 2008
Answer by bzmom2 at 12:56 PM on Dec. 28, 2008
I have never seen Mean Girls but have heard about the movie. I think that is an excellent suggestion to watch some tween/teen movies and discuss. But I would also not discourage her either from doing the right thing. Only to do it in a way where she is safe. In this situation enlisting a friend was not necessary. A note taped to the Principal's door would be enough. There could be a ton of ways to get the job done without a single soul knowing who was the person who told. Alcohol poisoning at that age is not hard to do. She may have saved a life. You, her, the school, her peers...they will never know what she prevented. But do watch some movies you find particularly relevant to her age and situations. Do role play with her. Do encourage her to read magazines and books about these issues. Talk to her EVERY night about her day and continue to stay involved. Oh -- KUDOS to you that your kid was not the one drinking.
Answer by frogdawg at 8:17 PM on Dec. 28, 2008
cont...By the way that age is AWFUL. I know. Early on I was labeled a slut, whore, boyfriend stealer - b/c I danced with this really hot guy at a school dance that some other girls were interested in. It stuck with me for the rest of my time there - unfortunate. My suggestion is have your daughter involved in an activity outside of her school. Most people base their self-esteem off of how others view them. Show her there is a life outside of school. Dance, karate, art lessons..something with peers she is interested in. That way she has friends beyond just her school, has interests beyond just those walls, and can develop a healthy sense a self with a set of different peers who may view her much differently than the kids she sees during school hours.
Answer by frogdawg at 8:22 PM on Dec. 28, 2008
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