Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

What does a guardian of light mean in a divorce case and what to except.

My husband was not going to give me enough to live on with 3 girls. So long story short I am going to fight for them now. They are going to bring this person in and hear both sides of the story but other wise no idea about this person. Anyone have someone like this for their case. thanks.

Answer Question
 
momindiana

Asked by momindiana at 5:22 PM on Aug. 25, 2011 in Relationships

Level 22 (13,323 Credits)
Answers (7)
  • A guardian ad litem is a person, appointed by the court, who is an advocate for the child(ren). Their job is to meet with the parents and then tell the court what is in the best interest of the child(ren) involved with the divorce.
    Brawnwyn

    Answer by Brawnwyn at 5:30 PM on Aug. 25, 2011

  • Do you mean guardian ad litem? They are advocate your children and only your children, you have your lawyer, he has his and the kids have someone who advocates on
    their behalf. Totally unbiased from all parties involved.
    luvschocolate

    Answer by luvschocolate at 5:31 PM on Aug. 25, 2011

  • Agree with the first two answers. They are the ONLY way your children can have a "voice" in court until they're 12. If they're younger, they're not allowed to speak in court. This way, they can tell someone unbiased their views and wants, and then the guardian ad litem will interview both you and the dad. They then tell the court their recommendation based on their observations and what the children have said. Good luck!
    mlmkjw

    Answer by mlmkjw at 5:35 PM on Aug. 25, 2011

  • Though they sound good in practice, usually they are concerned with keeping the status quo. In other words, have you been a stay at home mom who has done the bulk of the child care and upbringing? Then you will probably get primary custody. If your soon to be ex has been a stay at home dad, he will probably get custody. There is also a chance in today's world for you to get 50/50 custody. And they don't really get to say what they want when they are 12. What happens when they are 12 is that the judge will take them in chambers and listen to what they have to say. This may or may not have influence on what the judge decides. A lot of 12 yr olds can be bribed to go with one family member or another and judges know this, so they listen to the child's wants while tempering it with what they have heard about the rest of the case.
    lilangilyn

    Answer by lilangilyn at 6:14 PM on Aug. 25, 2011

  • Girls are ages 9,7, and 6, and I have been a stay at home mom for the last 10 years. Ever since they all were babies.
    momindiana

    Comment by momindiana (original poster) at 6:35 PM on Aug. 25, 2011

  • it's pretty much like a mediator that takes your kids best interest into the situation..
    sunshinebaby209

    Answer by sunshinebaby209 at 6:47 PM on Aug. 25, 2011

  • My children's GAL is a sweetheart. He is set in place to be an advocate for the children only and discusses their wishes with the court.
    4_28_bbboy

    Answer by 4_28_bbboy at 7:02 PM on Aug. 25, 2011

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.