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Let me start with- of course pedophiles do exist and horrible things can happen to children. I do understand this. However- I feel like as a society we have gotten out of control with our 'fear of pedophilia'.
First: Ummm.... these people existed when we were all kids and somehow we're here and surviving. And there weren't a million and 1 laws in place, mothers weren't constantly discussing their fear of such things, news shows weren't constantly showing stories about it, etc.
Second: Most children are molested by someone they know, such as a family member or a trusted family friend. Stranger abductions are extremely rare. Laws about pedophiles moving in and out of neighborhoods and living certain distances from places do absolutely nothing to keep kids safer. Find one study that can prove it works. Seriously- try to- I dare ya.
Third: A 19 year old who dates a 15 year old who consents to have sex is not a child molester or a rapist and yet he will have to register on a public website for the rest of his life. He will have trouble finding a job and a place to live.
Enough is enough. Use common sense. Teach your children how to take care of themselves. Educate them early and consistently about their own bodies and how to respect themselves. Make yourself a safe and comfortable person for them to come to with their questions and concerns. Stop expecting the legal system to do your parenting for you.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:14 AM on Aug. 26, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 5:03 PM on Aug. 27, 2011
Answer by samurai_chica at 10:46 AM on Aug. 26, 2011
Absolutely. My mom worries about EVERYONE. There's a guy pulling into the gas station, he could be a pervert. A woman is eating at the Mexican restaurant..she could be a child molester.
I think that everyone should be cautious.. but things are getting a little out of hand.
For gosh's sake, parents can't even take baby bath pics anymore without gettin child porn charges. Not EVERYONE is a child molester.
Answer by SuperrMommyy at 10:18 AM on Aug. 26, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:16 AM on Aug. 26, 2011
Answer by laird6372 at 10:27 AM on Aug. 26, 2011
Answer by frogdawg at 10:59 AM on Aug. 26, 2011
Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 11:43 AM on Aug. 26, 2011
Answer by Kitkat61277 at 12:33 PM on Aug. 26, 2011
Yes, and if pedophiles just got the death penalty instead of being released we wouldn't have such a fear. I don't think any crime should be more punishable by death than those against children.
Answer by scout_mom at 1:54 PM on Aug. 26, 2011
Answer by lambdarose at 10:26 AM on Aug. 26, 2011