Our 16 year old son has his first girlfriend for past month now. He has gone to her house once for a few hours. Tonight he is there again. Should we call there to make sure her parents are there? He says they are but should we call anyway? He thinks we are being untrustworthy by asking for her home phone number.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:15 PM on Dec. 28, 2008 in Teens (13-17)
You have every right to know where he is at and who is with him. Also, it's not being untrustworthy it's being a caring and loving parent asking for the phone number. I assume he drives, so yes I would call the girls parents. You know, it may at times be an inconvenience for them to have your son over. As parents sometimes we don't like people coming and going in our homes if we are resting and enjoying the peace and quiet.
Answer by Southerncharmes at 10:18 PM on Dec. 28, 2008
That is a touchy one. As a parent you want to (I would) but you also want to give your child the benefit of the doubt, just pray for the best. I just can't help thinking what if...the parents are not home and things get steamy and they get caught . It will be a lesson learned. Or talk to your son let him know how you feel tell him for him not to give you a reason not to trust him. Give me what I want from you and I will give you what you want...deal....deal...and there won't b any problems. Teenagers are going to do what they want anyway weather you know or not. Good Luck
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 10:25 PM on Dec. 28, 2008
Hey, you are good parents. I like the idea of calling her parents to let them know your 16 year old is visiting with their daughter. It is caring about this girl as well as your son. It is being respectful to her parents. But I would give him fair warning and knowledge that you intend to call with each visit to make sure this family is aware of his presence. I would also require that they hang at my house from time to time if this were my son. This way it is not all on the other parents. It may be a drag for him and for you but good parenting often requires us to do some very uncool things. It would be even more uncool for him to end up with a red itchy penis from some STD. Oh, and I would also provide information on sex and safe sex. Plus I would go over my expectations, hopes, concerns, and personal values. After that it is up to him.
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