We tried to have him join the swim team freshman year, but he balked and said he wanted to join the bowling team. We went along, but after a couple of bowling club mtgs, he said he didn't want to be on the team, but just the club. Soon, he was making excuses to not go to the club mtgs.
I started telling him I wanted him on the swim team this school year during the summer, thinking he would warm to the idea. But I brought it up today after school and he said he would "hate me forever" if I made him. I didn't react to the comment and he said he was sorry a little later, but still said he did not want to be on the team.
He is an average to good swimmer who swims on our neighborhood swim team each summer. Do we make him? My husband is waffling. I feel it would be good for him physically, socially, and make him a more rounded student. HELP!
Answer by meooma at 7:53 PM on Aug. 29, 2011
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Answer by DomoniqueWS at 7:56 PM on Aug. 29, 2011
You can't force him... if he's not into it then it won't be good for HIM or the team!! Does he have other interests? Support his choice, or it will only be a train wreck for both of you!! I work in Athletics in a High School... I've seen the mess that is created from kids being forced into sports b/c it's what their parents want... one word: Disaster!!
Answer by Crafty26 at 7:57 PM on Aug. 29, 2011
I always made my kids do anything they committed to whether they like it or not, then they should not have made a commitment, always follow through with those....or else don't commit.
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