Have a question for other moms like you? CafeMom Answers is the mom-only place to get answers to your questions about parenting, your home, and more.
I just do not know what to do abouyt my MIL anymore... I really love her, I think she means well ( most of the time ) , and I can sometimes understand her because I know when my kids grow up it will be hard for me to "let go" ... but still she is driving me crazy !!!!
My husband is no help because 90% of the time he isnt home to see the things she does ... and the times he does see it, he tries to talk to her but eventually backsdown and doesnt talk to her -- this has been going on for 7 years and I know it is pointless to even think he will talk to her about it anymore...
If you have ever seen Everybody Loves Raymond, times his mother by 10 and you have mine.... her and my FIL also are our neighbors ( 4 doors down) and therefore are at our house several times a day ( when my husband as at work and as soon as he gets home and sometimes even when i go to bed they are still on our couch ) ...
My MIL needs to know EVERYTHING ... and I mean everything... if she thinks I am grouichy she will ask me if I am on my period, if I say no she will want to know the last time I got one, and how bad it was....
Last weekend my husband's work had a employee family picnic, at the last minute my covered dish got ruined so we opted to not take anything ( which we didnt have to in the first place, I just wanted to) ... We arrived and say down and started talking to some people having a nice time when I spotted my MIL, carrying a covered dish... She also had to make an annoucement ( an actual annoucement in front of these 40+ people) that we didnt bring one and she didnt want it to look bad for us so she wanted to bring something that would be considered from us....if you can only imagine the embarrasment this caused.
This past week me and the kids were sick, I took them to the doctor, which i had told her before leaving that I would call her as soon as we were done.... of course this didnt register with her because she called every 10 minutes wanting to know what I found out... I had to turn my phone off... 20 minutes passed and the woman from the desk came into the room and told me that my mother in law keeps calling wanting to talk to me or know what is going on ... we went in because of sore throats and runny noses - not a surgery or soemthing that she urgently needed to know about.... she does this all the time, if she cannot get ahold of us, she will call whoever or whereever we are to get ahold of us... she also one time called the grocery store because I left my cell in the car, when they called me up to use the phone, she said " well I just wanted to see if you were still there, you werent home yet, so I didnt know" ... really that is all she said !
On a daily basis she will call at bad times -- I have to call to tell her that I am putting the kids to bed ( for a nap) , she will call and call until I pick up and just wants to know if they are asleep yet.... Uh no, they would be if you would quit calling... she will say Oh sorry, but then calls back again 5 mintues later...
She tries to tell me what to do, and then gets mad if I dont listen... I had a hair appt. 2 weeks ago and my friend was going to pick me up ( my husband had our vehicle ) ... I told MIL the appt. was at 11 ... well at 10 she shows up at my door saying she will take me to my appt. I tell her my friend is coming and my appt. isnt for another hour - she aruges with me about the time of the appt. and goes on to say my friend isnt a good friend for not picking me up on time...
I would seriously think she has a mental problem, but I know she doesnt !!!! and apparently she has ALWAYS been like this and I know that since she is in good health I have probably another 20 years of this !!!!!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 10:29 PM on Sep. 1, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by scout_mom at 10:34 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by bloomsr at 10:37 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by hopeandglory53 at 10:39 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by ohwrite at 10:40 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:42 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:47 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by Rosxjun88 at 10:48 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:49 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by dustbunny at 11:02 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Answer by momma-t42 at 11:15 PM on Sep. 1, 2011
Check out some of the top posts today in Groups: