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My 16 year old just had a baby 2 months ago. The father of the baby signed his rights away, without his parent's knowledge because he is 18. I told my DD it was up to her if she wanted him to and he was willing. Now his mother has found out about the baby (apparently, she didn't know, he lives with his dad and dad's girlfriend and they knew but mom lives about an hour away and I guess no one told her about it). Apparently, she took her son to a lawyer, who told them that since he was over 18 when he signed his rights away, they can not be reinstated unless my DD allows it (he would have to legally adopt the child). Now his mom is constantly harassing me saying that I should have called her and that we stole the baby from them. First of all, I called his dad when she got pregnant because he was still 17 at the time, it was his dad's job to let his mom know, not mine. Second we didn't steal anything. My DD gave birth to this baby, the bio father signed his rights away willingly, no one made him, in fact he was the one who asked to be able to. I just don't know how or even if I should deal with this woman, she is even worse to my DD and now my DD doesn't even take her calls. She has threatened to get grandparent visitation which is 1. very hard to get in our state and 2. she is no longer legally a grandparent so I don't believe she could get it even if we did live in a state that regularly has it.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:42 AM on Sep. 3, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
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Answer by mompam at 8:44 AM on Sep. 3, 2011
If your daughter secretly had a baby and then gave it to the father and his family to raise would you be willing to walk away so easily? Put yourself in the other grandmother's shoes. She is feeling cheated out of knowing a grandchild and my guess is you would feel the same. The child might resent being kept from the other half of his biological family. Your grandchild can only benefit from more people to love him so please try and show some compassion. I also want to point out that even though your daughter is a minor this is her decision not yours.
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