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help 29 yearold son and i still lives at home why?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:49 AM on Jul. 15, 2008 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • Kick his a** out!! haha j/k He probablyu hasnt had to move out. It is MUCH eaiser to stay with your parents than to have to pay rent. Maybe he likes being there to help you out. Wh oknows why he is there, you should talk to him, if you want him to move out you should tell him.
    MommyMel03

    Answer by MommyMel03 at 1:49 PM on Jul. 15, 2008

  • Because you LET him live there. Goodness gracious. I cannot imagine an adult child living at home. Our cut off is after college graduation. After that, no adult child may live at home unless it's temporary. Time to cut the apron strings mom.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:13 PM on Jul. 15, 2008

  • why? because he can. You can set boundaries for him. Ask him what his future plans are and if he is saving to buy himself a house in this economy that is great for first time homeowners with housing costs so cheap. Buyer's market! Encourage him to get a plan for himself and with a timeline of moving out, preferrably before he's 30.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 4:15 PM on Jul. 15, 2008

  • p.s. if that doesn't work tell him all kids who are living with their parents when they reach their 30th birthday will be devoured by the youth dragon in his sleep. Tell him to protect himself and seek shelter in someone else's castle.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 4:17 PM on Jul. 15, 2008

  • As a woman who has dated full grown ass men who live with their parents I beg you to look in the mirror. Why do you think he lives with you? Free food, home cooked meals, free awesome cable, free Xbox live. A carefree life. He doesn't have to worry about bills, or rent, or a crazy ass landlord. Please force him to grow up, the next thing he'll want to do is move his wife in.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:40 PM on Jul. 16, 2008

  • Because you let him and its easier to live there than actually do the work to find his own place. Don't let him and it will force him to move out and find his own place.
    abs0726

    Answer by abs0726 at 1:25 PM on Jul. 18, 2008

  • Unless he has a medical reason for not being able to live on his own, then you have enabled him to be dependent on you, that is why he still lives at home. If you don't want him there, then it is time to be tough and say, I bought this suitcase for you, pack your things and go. My son just started college last year and he moved out a month after he graduated from high school, pays his rent, buys his groceries etc. I pay for his college, but he works to pay his bills and maintains his grades, it's a mean cruel world sometimes, but they better learn now. Help him pack, tell him to find his own place.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:46 AM on Jul. 19, 2008

  • Because you allow him too! Kick his overgrown a*s out! Give hime one month to secure independent housing, and not with his female friends, because you babied him, so much, why should he leave? I bet you wash his clothes, make dinner, and make excuses for him, not being mature enough to be on his own... does your sofa have his a*s print? Time for both of you to move forward, unless he is severely disabled, then he needs to go, and you need to stop babying him...Who wants a "deadbeat son?"
    mamajack824

    Answer by mamajack824 at 2:57 PM on Jul. 16, 2009

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