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Having a baby is not just a fabulous, enriching experience that opens up your capacity for love and endless opportunities for personal growth.
It's also miserably hard work. A baby is like the worst houseguest ever: endlessly demanding, keeping you up at all hours, needing to be fed and making a mess of the whole place.
People don't talk about this enough. It's really hard, being a parent. At times, it's crushing. But you're never allowed to say this.
Admitting that the kids are wearing you down — even if you carefully point out that you're just going through a bad patch and will probably be fine in an hour — seems to be taken as some kind of statement that you don't love them.
People feel the need to extol the joy a child has brought into their lives, even and especially at those moments when their frustration or anxiety might be at its peak. Embarrassed at having admitted any weakness at all in their parenting game, they try instantly to brighten and say, "But it's the best thing we've ever done."
No. Not always. Let's be real. There are countless times when being a parent is genuinely a struggle. You are going to be tired. Your relations with your spouse or partner will get strained. You will have to give up things you used to enjoy...
Do you agree that the sucky parts of parenting are usually swept under the rug?Answer Question
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