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I'm proud to be a teen mom. Im speaking my mind and screw teen mom haterz!!

A little info- I’m 19 and was a teen mom

Sooo… I had an issue with some1 earlier on here. She pretty much decided to bash me for being a teen mom. She said I’m just another teen mom with jobless skills and I’m not a part of society.

1st of all, jobless skills? You want to know the skills I have? I can type more than 50 wpm, I was going to take calculus in high school but the only reason I couldn't was because the highest math they offer to independent studies students is Algebra1. I can write a 2 page essay in less that 20 minutes (got an A). BTW, we had 2 weeks to do it. I've taken occupational programs and advanced computer classes, passed my high school exit exam with the top scores of my class. All this, in high school. And people ask why I’m a SAHM, because my daughter is only 2 and I’m the damn best mom and teacher she can have right now.

Want to know her skills too?? Before she turned 1 she knew all her basic colors, all her body parts (except her coochie, we said butt instead). While she was 1 she was fully potty trained, dress herself, could count to 4, and knew some letters. She turned 2 6 weeks ago and is talking in full sentences. So go ahead and try to tell me teen moms can’t be good moms.

Anyways, what right does she have to bash me just because of my age? The only BASIC difference between us as a mom is that I was a teen mom. Just because you get pregnant at 16 doesn't mean you’re going to love your child any different than if you’re 36. Yeah I’ll admit I wasn't in a relationship when I got pregnant. But guess what? I was a teenager. Teenagers have sex in case any1 hasn't noticed. So what happened to me? I wasn't selfish and decided to keep my baby instead of my teenage life. Abortion isn't for me.

I don’t ever think of my daughter as a mistake. In my opinion things happen for a reason, and God gave me my daughter as a gift. Because of my daughter I am very successful. I moved out when I was 18. I live in a 4 bedroom house, built in pool, and 3 car garage. It’s just me, my daughter, and my boyfriend of 3 years. And yes he is her father. We pay our own bills. We have 2 cars, I paid for 1 in cash, I don’t like credit card. And for you moms who think SAHM are lazy, as soon as my car gets fixed I’m going to school to be either a diagnostic medical sonographer or a radiation therapist. =)

If you truly agree with this woman then you can kiss my skinny, white ass for all I care. I’m not going to let people bring me down or make me feel bad for any decisions I make. GO TEEN MOMS!! (I’m not supporting intentional teen pregnancy)

I'm just trying to let people know that being a teen mom is no different.

BUMP IF YOU AGREE WITH ME

I read an apology on here. I just want to say that getting this off my chest made me feel good. But reading the apology makes me feel even better. Thank you. I didn't write this searching for an apology. It was to speak my mind and share my opinion. Again, Thank you.

Like i said **I support teen moms** not teen pregnancy.

 
teenmommy31

Asked by teenmommy31 at 3:27 AM on Sep. 8, 2011 in Parenting Debate

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Answers (35)
  • Nice post, coming from a former teen mom also.

    But you don't need to prove or explain yourself to anyone, least of all haters like that woman. Don't let people like that get to you, CM is full of ignorant cookie cutter types that spew bullshit all the time.

    GomezMami2908

    Answer by GomezMami2908 at 3:34 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • You sound like a great mom. i would never bash a teen mom. Once you have a child you grow up and mature so quickly, well most of us, that it doesnt matter what age you are. And for as young as you are, you are doing better than most people i know who are in their 30's and have kids. GOOD JOB!!
    mom2lyl

    Answer by mom2lyl at 3:40 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • I don't bash teen moms, but I do have to say, I think that being a teen is hard enough. Being a parent is hard enough. Trying to do both at the same time is a burden that I understand some people have taken on and done a good job with, but it isn't one that I think people should intentionally try to do (the girls who try to get pg, for example). And I do think that it can have negative affects on your life (NOT saying that any baby is a mistake, btw) - for example, as you said, you are smart enough to take calculus, but because you were taking independent studies (I assume because you were pg), you weren't able to.

    I know many people who have been very successful teen moms, and I've known some crappy moms who had their kids later. But, the teen moms that I know that were the most successful were also usually the first to say that this isn't the easiest road to take...
    sailorwifenmom

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 3:46 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • I don't bash teen moms no room for it as I was one.
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 5:12 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • I don't bash either. I think as long as any Mom is doing what they are suppose too then whats the big deal? I have seen some awful Moms that are in their 30's and are married. So good job for taking care of your baby. I am sure there are alot of people that are proud of you so ignore the ones that bash you.
    jenn4443

    Answer by jenn4443 at 5:48 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • Wow, you go, girl! I love to write and even I can't kick out two pages in twenty minutes!

    As some other the other ladies pointed out, you don't have to defend yourself to close minded people, though I totally understand the urge. But, venting also helps to purge the frustration, as I'm sure you know! :)

    Keep being the awesome mom that you are (and maybe share some of your secrets!) and ignore anyone who are too ignorant to realize that no matter a person's back ground or situation, they don't have the right to judge.

    Rock on and good luck with college!
    Tommyskitty

    Answer by Tommyskitty at 6:50 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • When I was your age, I lied about my age all the time...people thought I was 27 when I was 17 and would hang on my every word as they listened to my advice about their sad little lives, and then they would say, "wow, you are so wise...how old are you?" and you could see their eyes change when they found out how young I was...you could see the thought process..."hey, I'm way older than she is...I must know more!" and suddenly THEY would try to give me advice LOL


    I am not an ageist. I know many adolesent 40 year olds, and plenty of grown-up 17 year olds. By judging a package by the paper that wraps it, you will always miss out.


    Feel free to invite me as a friend. Even though I'm twice your age, I bet we'd have a lot in common.


    Laila Moysey
    Proud Member of Internet CEO Moms
    Moms Helping Moms Work From Home since 1999

    livewell

    Answer by livewell at 7:24 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • I think you are the exception. GREAT JOB though!!! Some women aren't even that mature when they're 25!!! :)
    augsmom

    Answer by augsmom at 8:42 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • Print this out, save it and re-read it when your daughter is 16. You will be surprised at your own reaction.
    Dr.Donna

    Answer by Dr.Donna at 8:54 AM on Sep. 8, 2011

  • I wouldn't be proud of procrastinating on a paper you had 2 weeks to write. Sure you wrote in 20 minutes and got an A, but was that your best effort? I'm not proud of my grades (although I graduated from college with a 4.0), I'm proud when I've done the best job I know I could do.
    I don't think teen moms are bad, but surely you don't think that getting pregnant at 16 was a good decision?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:03 AM on Sep. 8, 2011