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Am i selfish?

I am a new mom, back in shape feeling very sexy and frisky again, hubby never shows interest, we have had to many talks about him not giving or showing affection or attention. I feel invisible, sexless and just tired of waiting for him to come around i will be 29 in two months and i just cant live like this for ever. I love my child so much but i want to be adorned too is this selfish

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:11 PM on Dec. 30, 2008 in Relationships

Answers (13)
  • no i don't think so
    krazyash023

    Answer by krazyash023 at 10:12 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • Of course not! You have needs too. You're a mom yes, and that comes first, but so does your feelings
    Lizamafers

    Answer by Lizamafers at 10:12 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • no, everyone has needs and us as woman have the need to feel sexy loved etc...
    workenmom

    Answer by workenmom at 10:13 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • Not at all.
    Tetona

    Answer by Tetona at 10:15 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • Selfish to want your man to want you?
    Uhh, no.
    Liyoness

    Answer by Liyoness at 10:16 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • Nope you are not selfish....you are a woman in her prime with healthy needs. Notice I said NEEDS...wanting affection from your SO is a need not a want. He needs to wrap his head around that and provide for your needs.
    MomShawn70

    Answer by MomShawn70 at 10:16 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • Absolutely not selfish! Good for you feeling all sexy. Keep it up. :-)
    girlletmetellu

    Answer by girlletmetellu at 10:28 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • you need to feel wanted!im in the same boat:(
    amysmomma505

    Answer by amysmomma505 at 10:34 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • No you are not being selfish at all!!!
    scaredmommy08

    Answer by scaredmommy08 at 10:45 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

  • Does he have a hard time seeing past the mommy image? I would go for some counseling even if you can't get him to go. He may come in with you after you get started.
    callmeann

    Answer by callmeann at 11:00 PM on Dec. 30, 2008

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