He doesn't listen, he is always doing something I have told him time and time again not to do (trash on his bedroom floor, several dishes piling up in his room, missing homework assingments) Just recently I had set an expectation this school year, he is in the 8th grade, no missing assingments, last year he had so many and received bad grades, already the 3rd week in he had 6 missing assigments so I grounded him for 4 days, meaning he could not go outside and hang with friends, on Friday I let him go to his school carnival for 2 hours and he called 10 minutes before he was supposed to be home and asked to stay out longer I said no he said he hated me and he wasn't coming home. He did come home but was very mean to me saying I don't care you are always mean, ect. I try to explain I did something nice why do you have to treat me this way and he says he doesn't care, this whole week he has been an asshole to me even though he knew what the expectation was. I am so upset with the way he treats me and doesn't respect me, Help~Answer Question
Answer by rachel216 at 8:35 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 8:37 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
Yes, the teen years are all what you described, let him be grumpy and mean, as long as there is no disrespect to you, ignore him, he will find out that if he follows house rules things will be ok. Don't let the I hate you comments gets to you, it is a universal language for them, but they do not really mean it, ignore and keep up the good work, this is just the beginning of a very long battle stay consistent and you will come out a winner!
Answer by older at 8:43 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
Answer by Danielle163 at 8:43 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
Answer by Brawnwyn at 8:50 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
Well aren't the teen years just delightful! I'd make the boy wish he was in a boot camp. Mommy boot camp is much worse! The boy would have no life other than school, homework & chores. No video games, no computer, no cell phone etc. He would have to earn those privileges back by doing what is expected of him, including his treatment of you! No more eating in his room either. If he doesn't like it, so what?! Parenting is not a popularity contest. And if you don't nip it now, things will only get worse! GL mama! :)
Answer by mrsmom110 at 8:59 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
Answer by momof239 at 9:08 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
Answer by older at 9:23 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
Answer by nanafor5 at 9:28 AM on Sep. 10, 2011
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