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My thirteen year old son was arrested a few hours ago for hitting me. I begged the police not to take him. I am so distraught and depressed right now. I feel so awful that it got to this point. I had my older son come over and try and calm me down. My older son agrees that my thirteen year old should have to pay for what he did. My son was on the computer, and said something rude to me (mocking me) and I told him to get off the comp. Well, he ignored me so I came over and unplugged it. I felt he was being extremely rude by not listening to me. I told him to go to his room. Well on the way up the stairs, he said "fuck you stupid bitch". Needless to say, I ran up those stairs really quick...got in his face and said say it again! He said it again really stern. I slapped him! Yes, I did. How dare he! I am a single mom trying to raise him on my own, along with his siblings....and you have the nerve to say that to me! So he then pushed me in to the wall. I told him he was so going to get it if he put his freaking hands on me again. I went downstairs, and he followed me yelling and swearing at me. I then grabbed him telling him to get the heck out, and get some fresh air before something serious happens. He was making me so upset I couldnt breath. I felt like my chest was caving in. When I had his arms to stop him from getting in my face, he was holding me up against the kitchen sink, and I could literally feel my back cracking. I some how got out of his hold...and went at him. We basically fist fought. He then took me by the back of my head and slammed me to the floor. My daughters that came down and seen what he did called 911. Well they came, and asked what happened. I told them everything, I also told them I hit him after he called me a fucking bitch. The cop told me straight out, that he doesnt feel that is a reason for my son to do what he did. He told me, that he probably would have done the same thing. He said thats whats wrong with these kids today, they dont get the discipline like when I was younger. I agree....but now look! All this, so fast....but seemed so long. Now my son in in jail. I am so distraught right now. I cant stop crying. Why! Thats all I can keep saying! I am dying inside. Why would he do this. I might want to add that my son is only thirteen but 6ft 3. So he is way bigger than me, and stronger.Now what do I do. I never wanted this, and now I have to decide on Monday in court, if I want him home with me...or to go to a group home for a while. what would you do? I know my son, and he will probably come how with a attitude again, but they I dont want to leave him at a group home. So confused!!
Asked by Anonymous at 10:47 PM on Sep. 10, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
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Answer by Anonymous at 1:31 AM on Sep. 11, 2011
While I understand that your son cursing at you was very upsetting, I think you could have picked a better reaction and punishment for him. The situation got out of control because of both of you, not just him. I agree with the other women that have suggested counseling. It can help both of you control your anger.
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