I have a question for you ladies. I'm not the type of person that likes just about everybody. There are some people that I do dislike immensley. I don't want to say the word hate, because it's a very strong word. I dislike these people because they have hurt me. There are only 3. When someone asks me how much I dislike that person I tell them this: "Let me put it this way, if I saw them on fire on the side of the road, I wouldn't give them a drink of water let alone call 9-1-1." I do get surprised looks. It's only those 3 people I feel that way about. My question is, am I a bad person for feeling this way about them? Am I the only one that can dislike someone that much?Answer Question
Answer by symle456 at 12:34 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
Answer by dle4125 at 12:34 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
Answer by Christine0813 at 12:35 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
Answer by Precious333 at 12:35 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
I think you're being a bit harsh aren't you? Yes I too have people that I ABSOLUTELY DISPISE because they have not only hurt me, but my children and family as well and yes I have even said such things. But then I realized that feeling this way only makes me hold onto the anger and to me, I'd rather let it all go instead of spending my precious time on someone who is truly not worth it. Not only that, but karma will come back around to them eventually. I know you're familiar with the phrase, "kill them with kindness". Believe me, both work!!!!!!
Answer by LovingParent08 at 12:41 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
Answer by kathyartist2007 at 12:48 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
Let me correct my answer. I shouldn't have said you're being harsh and I apologize for it. What I should have said was that no, you're not a bad person or wrong for feeling that way because I think all of us do or have at one point or another. And I agree with Precious333 that forgiving such people not only helps us heal, but makes us stronger. And again, I apologize if my previous answer came off rude.
Answer by LovingParent08 at 12:49 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
Answer by americansugar80 at 12:51 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
It is normal to fantasize that the person who has hurt you is put in a situation where you are the one who has the upper hand. My bet: no you would not just let them burn. But you probably have good reason to think those thoughts as well as good reasons to not want them around you. I hope they are not around you. Basically it is like this: you are in charge of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors (including what you say). If someone asks you what you think of one of those three people, you are in control of what you say. If you don't want the looks or don't like how they judge you - then NOT saying what you think and feel is probably in your best interest. You can be truthful while preserving your image, "I don't really care about that person or to talk about them. It causes me to think awful things." Enough said.
Answer by frogdawg at 1:03 PM on Dec. 31, 2008
Answer by momofsaee at 1:24 PM on Dec. 31, 2008