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I have 2 sons with my ex, 8 and 12. My ex is with a woman who has a son who is 13. I have full custody, my ex has one weekend a month. In his home, he does not have cable or satellite no kid DVDs to speak of and no game systems. It's an apartment so unless it's the summer when they can swim, they have nothing to do (the play ground is for kids 10 and under so my 12 year old can't use it plus there must be an adult with them and my ex refuses to take them) and there's no place where they can even throw a ball or ride bikes (not that my ex has them) or anything. During his weekend, which is from friday after school at 3 pm to sunday at 3 pm, he takes them on one outing only so most of the time they are expected to entertain themselves. Because of this, I bought them a second XBOX 360 to keep at their dad's house (I used to let them just take their to and from his house but they would sometimes forget (more like he would tell them they are going out and would be back before he dropped them off and then just drop them off anyway so that he could use the system and he would refuse to let me pick it up). I thought this was the perfect solution, and it was, he even bought them a game for it, other then that, they brought the games back and fourth, the only rule was they couldn't bring more then 2 games at a time. Well now his girlfriend has moved in and her son lives with them half the time. He is 13 and is very destructive, he doesn't take care of anything, not even his own stuff. He has broken 2 of my son's games and his mother refuses to replace them so I told my ex that he is not welcome to use the system that I bought for my sons. My ex told me I have no right to dictate what goes on in his house, I said yes I do if it involves my stuff. ? Well I don't want to take the Xbox because then my sons would be back to having nothing to do. So I came up with an idea, you can set parental controls to games and if the game rating is higher then allowed, you need a password. There is a way to set it to where you can't play any games without a password. I had my 12 year old set it with a password (the 8 year old doesn't even know the password, so no one tricks it out of him) I also only enable the XBOX live (which I pay for) when my boys are there. They also bring home their controllers and any games they take every weekend. Well all this happened this past weekend, my ex is pissed because his girlfriend is pissed that now her son doesn't have a system to use. I feel that it's not my job to provide her son with stuff and my sons don't worry that their XBOX is going to get ruined while they aren't thereAnswer Question
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