Hi-this is my first time on anything like this! I am hoping to get some advise on how to deal with the wacko ex and the lazy kids. One of the issues is the kids have no structure at all at their moms place. It's video games and tv the majority of the time. When here I would like them to keep their rooms picked up and to just pick up after themselves when doing something like homework, projects, having a snack. They just leave stuff laying around. I ask that their rooms get cleaned up and any dirty clothes get put in the laundry before going back to their moms. Its a chore every week to get these things done. They are home 40% of the time, so 6 out of 14 days. They are 9 & 11. Their manners need work too! Wacko ex told the older child that she isn't allowed to bring her catechism homework over there anymore! She kept the youngest home from school for 2 days because he wiped out on his bike and hit his knee on the curb!! Even had him use a wheel chair when she (finally) brought him to the doctor! When he got to our place he was jumping around within an hour!!! (She coddles and babies them horribly) but also treats them like little adults. So weird!! Her boyfriend is 23 yrs old and she is 37. He is video game king! That is all he does is play video games. Doesn't work. He stays home to "help with the kids". I could go on and on and on... so many issues. I want my husband to "bite back" a little more. He just says she won't listen, Which is true because she thinks she is always right but I still think its important to speak your mind. Explain that the certain situation is not ok and why... Am I wrong? Am I a spaz? And how do Ideal with the kids? How much should I be doing? Telling them what to do?, etc... I feel like their mom instead of their stepmom. I've had my kids and my youngest is 17. Feel like I'm starting over and it is not real fun for me right now. lol Any advise or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks for letting me vent!
Answer by JackieGirl007 at 9:21 PM on Sep. 15, 2011
Answer by AlexxasMama at 9:55 PM on Sep. 15, 2011
Answer by justanotherjen at 11:55 AM on Sep. 16, 2011
Answer by healthykidsmom at 4:30 PM on Sep. 16, 2011
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