My very good friend and neighbor's son has been bullying my son. They are good friends, but she is in denial and says "boys will be boys". I know the difference between joking and being down right "mean". Her son has had a short temper and anger issues for a few years now, but it is getting worse. I have seen him hit & push his sister and mom in anger. He has manipulated her into believing that adults are lying, and he is telling the truth. She once implied my husband was lying, when he witnessed a particular incident. She state "that is not how Sam said it happened".
She is a good person, with a big heart. I don't want to lose her as a friend, but how her son is treating mine isn't right.
What do I do?
Who is more important? Your friend or your child? If I had a good friend who had a son bulling my child....I would address it and that would be that. If I loose this friend so be it. I do not want to loose the trust of my child. My job is to protect my child. Not to try and protect my grown adult friend's feelings. "Boys will be boys" mentality is what makes fraternity boys think it is okay to rape girls partying at the fraternity house - just a few guys having some fun. That same mentality is what allows men to sexually harass or bully coworkers. They learn it from some where and it starts in childhood. No excuses Mom. Show your child it is not tolerated and that this bully doesn't get a pass from you just because your friends with his mother. The only person who gets special treatment from you is your child. Of course.
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