I try to help with counseling, job websites, school sites. I am newly remarried, and have a son who is 21 who is off to college, my husband has a daughter who is off to college, I am in the time of my life that it is my time of life, if that makes sense. I am not looking for animosity or argue with her I don’t want her on the streets, I just want her to get her head on straight, what do I do? I really want to help her, I want to see her succeed, the tough love doesnt work, she just stays clear to try and not rock the boat. But, she is on my couch 24/7 and is just soooo lazy and unmotivated, she does do things I ask, chores etc.. but i am just tired of the lazy pernamant fixture. Any suggestions please??Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 4:46 PM on Sep. 20, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by Anonymous at 4:49 PM on Sep. 20, 2011
She is 19, and should know how to properly care for herself. As long as you're doing everything for her, she doesn't need to be motivated to move out, and become an independent woman.
Give her a time line of what is expected of her, and consequences of not following through, and you stick by what you say.
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