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Why is it so easy for people to say this?

Why is it so easy for people to tell other people to leave their spouses? Even if there was an affair, even if he doesn't make you happy, even if you hate him. Why does the answer always have to be "LEAVE"? Why don't people believe in working it out? People do make mistakes, people grow and change and learn. Is that why the divorce rate is so high? Because no one is willing to put the work into their marriage anymore? If the grass seems greener on the other side, then water yours and make it green too. Why can't we bow down anymore. Bow down to our kids and give them the gift of two parents who will not only die for them, but will LIVE for them too. Bow down to God and and really put him before ourselves and invite him into our marriages. We don't always have to think about ourselves.

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 12:45 AM on Jan. 2, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (29)
  • Good for you!!! Well said!!! Divorce should never be taken lightly. Those other fish in the sea smell just as bad as the one you have now!!! No one is perfect, we need to start with ourselves before we can even fix up our spouse, but no one wants to hear how something might be partly their fault!
    shmorris56

    Answer by shmorris56 at 3:18 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • i agree!
    AliciaO

    Answer by AliciaO at 12:46 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • Bravo, well said!
    dedicatedrider

    Answer by dedicatedrider at 12:46 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • Well, I don't put God into it, but I do agree.
    PROGENITOR

    Answer by PROGENITOR at 12:47 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • while I understand your frustration, I do not condone staying married for the sake of the kids. The kids do not have a better life if Mommy & Daddy are still together but fight like cats and dogs 24/7 because they hate each other.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:47 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • I agree with anonymous poster. Children are smart little people and staying married is not always the best option. I don't think it should be a first option, and people should try to work on their issues before pursuing divorce. However, growing up in an unhappy home can have very negative affects on Children. I guess you could pretend for awhile, but how long could you keep that up?
    Rebecca7708

    Answer by Rebecca7708 at 12:50 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • Just about all of the posts I've read in multiple places on cm with the wife or girlfriend thinking of leaving isn't writing in their post that this is the first time they've been cheated on OR treated very very poorly; the posters in those posts seem more often to be stretching their imagination looking for reasons to stay. Some of us responding to those kinds of posts have been there done that and it's gone years into a very difficult relationship way longer than necessary. If a wife/girlfriend's poor treatment, extremely poor involving poor poor low selfesteem because of cheating by her man or neglect, mistreatment by him then advice to leave him is in order.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:51 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • well i do belive and it is in the commandments that you cannot cheat on your spouse because marriage is a holy thing. usually if you try to work it out it only makes it harder and uncomfortable. the divorce rate is high because of people that belive that.
    xhellxfirex495

    Answer by xhellxfirex495 at 12:52 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • yes, i belive if they dnt make you happy, you should determine the problem and talk to your spouse about it...or if your just bored with the person you should work it out. its easier said than done however. most people dont find it easy to talk to their spouse about maritial problems because of various fears from losing their kids to losing themselves. i dont know how u live but it is different for everyone. some people have differnt beliefs and in most cases the saying once a cheater always a cheater does apply. and sometimes it is more serious, an affair can go on for years, even though it is a sin. people should work most things out but adultry is against god, and bowing down to him would mean bowing down to his commands.
    xhellxfirex495

    Answer by xhellxfirex495 at 12:52 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

  • I think divorce is for sum but not all.. sum people cant work through their problems.. the divorce rate is high becuz younger kids are getting married before taking the steps that they need to take..
    MiSs.SmOkEy

    Answer by MiSs.SmOkEy at 12:55 AM on Jan. 2, 2009

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