I have a 6 year old who is ver good for the most part, but lately had had an occasional additude problem, and has been a little mean to her little brother. We used to just put her in the corner but it no longer seems to affect her. She doesn't go outside much anymore since it's cold so grounding her doesn't work. She hardly ever watches TV so I can't take that away, and the entire house is full of toys so I can't send her to her room or anything because she would just play and it wouldn't be a punishment. What can I do. I'm looking for ideas other than spanking or hitting her. She gets her additude from her bio mom who she sees every other weekend which makes it even harder because she's just doing what she sees her do.Answer Question
Answer by ChaoticSoul at 9:04 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
Answer by jodi205 at 9:05 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
Answer by momofpurebliss at 9:07 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
Answer by gemgem at 9:12 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
Answer by NannyB. at 9:19 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
Answer by ReneeK3 at 10:02 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
I don't spank either. I think the suggestions to remove toys are good. Takes away other activities and privileges as well. It must be hard having another parent to deal with. I've never had a problem with my way of discipling my kids, they are great kids so I will disagree with spanking being the most effective form of disciple. It certainly isn't.
Answer by Pauline3283 at 10:41 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
First, do not blame her biological mother. Every other weekend is not a huge amount of time and you are giving that woman control over your household. Power she doesn't really have. Children learn they can behave one way at mom's house and one way at dad's house. So what it amounts to is how you teach her to behave while she is in your home. Second, you should be applauded for not using spanking and thinking more creatively. There are tons of ways. To name a few: have her go to a chair and sit there for six minutes and come up with 1) what exactly she did wrong 2) what to differently the next time 3) fix the situation right now if possible. This teaches her how to correct her actions. Punishments are not worth anything if they don't actually teach the child anything for the future. cont...
Answer by frogdawg at 11:18 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
cont...You can also read stories to her from the library on this subject. Getting a long with her brother, living in step family situations, ect...and then discussing them. Watch a movie about this topic and then discuss. Create firm and loving boundaries, be specific, and NEVER blame her actions or behaviors on her mother. That is almost a self fulfilling prophesy for her and for you.
Answer by frogdawg at 11:20 AM on Jan. 2, 2009
Answer by Nissa54 at 11:46 AM on Jan. 2, 2009