Do You Tell Your Kids to "Shut Up?"
December 20, 2008 at 2:08 PM by Cafe Kierna - Comments (53)
Saying "shut up" doesn't make you a potty mouth, does it?
Because my mom was really funny about harsh sounding words (we didn't say words like "liar," "butt," and definitely not "shut-up"), now I'm finding that I'm the same way with my kids. But of course every home has a different set of allowable word rules, and Pnukey's question, "Do you tell your kids to shut-up?" got me seriously thinking about that.
"I never understood why "shut up" is a bad phrase," she added. "I tell mine to shut up because sometimes they really need to." Well, she's got a serious point there.
Do you use harsh words with your kids? Do you tell them to "shut up"?
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Yes, I have to tell my son to "shut up". First, I attempt to be nice and tell him to calm down or be quiet. Kids have the ability to drive you dang near crazy. Especially, mine because he is CONSTANTLY talking or moving. He's a boy, a kid.
But geez sometimes I just need a little peace and quiet to think. I'm glad he is talkative though and not too shy. He will do well in class when it comes to speaking/speech.
I never used shut up with my kids. I think it's rude. Instead, we use phrases like "be quiet", "pipe down", "shush", or even "shut it" if I've tried to quiet them for a while but never "shut up".
I have only said "shut up" to my son maybe 3 times. He is 6. In our home we do not use those words or the word "stupid". So if things are really bad and he is REALLY in trouble using "shut up" or "stupid" is an ultimate show of the end of my patience/understanding and that lets him know he is on the edge of some major punishment. Does that make sense?
Of course! I have a teenager who is a drama queen and talks constantly! LOL!
Oh..maybe I should clarify...I never call him stupid....I use it like .... for example... "Leave the stupid thing there and get in the car".... or something...
well, my son is 4.. i dont think its a vey good phrase to teach a child, since more than likely if i did I would hear it right back. but, I dont really have any reason to say that to him now anyways...
I have told my son shut up. But RARELY, and it's after he has been asked/told repeatedly to stop. It's worked though, I think, because since it's something I never say, the shock factor got him to stop.
I have to admit I have said 'shut up', but it also is when 'be quiet', please talk in a different room, etc, has not worked and I need the quiet. The sad part is it doesn't work too well either! LOL!
I try not to ever say that but probably have slipped. And apparently I do tell my old and whiny cat this—especially at 4 am—which now my 2-year old has picked up on. *sigh*
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I have used shut up once with my kids, boy did it work. We were driving to go shopping about 15 miles away and they wouldn't stop their mouths. So I yelled bluntly, SHUT UP, and they were so stunned they were quiet the whole way there.
trego Dec. 20, 2008 at 2:51 PM