My daughter is an only child, at least unless we get a miracle baby!  I never meant to have only one child that is what fate decided for me.  I am trying to focus on the positives for her, how she doesn't have to share us with anyone and can have more stuff because we will have more time attention for her.  I have to admit she is a wee bit spoiled but she is a sweet, loveable little girl and not a bit mean or nasty, her teacher's say she is friends with everyone and is so kind to each and every person she meets.  And I can also admit, that I, who am not an only child was #1 spoiled rotten and knew it #2 acted like an incredible brat my entire life #3 got in lots of fights at school, was selfish and downright nasty!  So my little only child so far has one up on me, the kid who grew up with a sibling and was awful!

mom2mads Apr. 5, 2009 at 9:20 AM

My son also is a only child,i was not married when i had him,i never expected to get pregnant so young much less being single.But he is the light of my life he makes me laugh and smile.And yes he is so smart A-B honer role all year,plus passed his first tasks test with flying colors.I am very proud of him and so what if i don't have more which is not a possibility since i had my tubes tied after he was born.,he is a very happy child and he gets more attention from me and my fiance because he is a only child.I grew up with three sisters so no wonder i was the quite on of the group!!!

Beda1970 Apr. 5, 2009 at 9:35 AM

I was an only child until I was 13 yrs old, and I was A/B Honor Role student, Gifted and Talented, and all that good stuff.  I was a touch spoiled, and part of me really wants my daughter to be an only child, but dh wants a big family. 

piratesmermaid Apr. 5, 2009 at 1:00 PM

Woot!!! I have an only child, shes 3. I want 1 more but hubby does not so I am thinking she might always be an only child and she is very smart. Thanks for giving me some good positive light about my only child. :)

And I hadnt heard of that group you mentioned but I recommend the group "Moms of Onlies" found here http://www.cafemom.com/group/7063

ladysylpher Apr. 5, 2009 at 1:05 PM

I am an only child and I can tell you that my mom and dad are my closest friends. I can and have always been very close to them, even during my rebellious years as a teen.

I wouldn't change it for anything. I am also very creative, and I have a great imagination (I had an imaginary brother when I was little). A one child family is a great family.

I was even sad for a while when I was pregnant for the second time, fearing that if I have another baby I wouldn't be as close to my precious first. Things have worked out fine for us, but there are times when my oldest misses out because I am busy with the youngest.

Having only one is a blessing that some people won't understand.

 

Cinnamon-mom Apr. 5, 2009 at 1:29 PM

My son is an only child and he is very smart.  Adults love to be around him because he can carry on a conversation with them.  He is not a brat at all.  He can be bossy but my sister has 4 kids and her oldest is bossy.  I hear a lot of negatives about only children but the only children I know are usually the most well behaved, intelligent and polite kids I know. 

I wanted more children but that was not meant to be we are content and happy with our only child. 

momtoonecuteboy Apr. 5, 2009 at 2:30 PM

I am an only child and I swore I would kidnap a second child before I would let my son be an only! ( I ended up having quite a few kids!)

I HATE IT and I wish every day that I wasn't an only. My parents wanted so much for me and I tried to fill everyone's wishes. Dad wanted a scholar, Mom wanted a popular cheerleader, Dad wanted a buddy and so did mom. I felt guilty if I seemed closer to one than the other. This was of my own making; they didn't cause it.

Now I have no one to reminesce with about my childhod. Dad has been dead for 20 years and Mom is almost 80. There is no sister or brother to talk about funny memories.

And guess who is responsible for Mom? There is nobody but me and I am disabled.

My kids have no cousins, I have no nieces and nephews. I won't ever be "Aunt"

I an a loner and I think it is partly because I became used to being alone and now I prefer it.I became a book worm and still feel like my best friends were characters in books.

My parents did not want to have an only child - my dad's closest relative was an only child who died at 22 leaving his parents alone and devastated. This terrified them and they tried to have more.

We all have to make decisions for ourselves but I truly regret being an only.

LibraryLady200 Apr. 5, 2009 at 2:48 PM

I have a cousin who grew up as an only child. She met her twin sister when we were in high school. Her twin, 6 hours older than her, has two younger brothers. They were like night and day. My only child cousin was shy, but selfish. She hated us who had siblings, because we usually had to bring the younger ones with us. She even refused to be with us sometimes, and would rub it into our faces when she got something new (a lot of times saying, "Too bad you're not an only child like me. My parents can afford this. Yours can't.)

Kenre Apr. 5, 2009 at 3:16 PM

I am an only child and my mom is an only child. I have no cousins, nieces, aunts, uncles, etc on my side. My hubby is the youngest of 4, so we have family gatherings on his side. As a child, I loved being an only child. However, now that I'm an adult, I really wish I had siblings! I would love to have someone to talk to about the past.
My husband and I had planned to only have one child, but the older I got, the more I wanted my son to have a sibling in his life. I have never regretted that decision!!

officefan01 Apr. 5, 2009 at 4:56 PM

I do agree, a lot of the only children I know are very smart people!

However, as much as I sometimes wished I could have been an only, I'm glad I had a younger brother. Who else would you blame for knocking over the lamp or making a mess in the house? Haha... plus there is always a built in person to hang out and play with growing up. My SO wants our baby to be the only one, but we'll see how it goes after the first few years.

Amanda_Jeanne Apr. 5, 2009 at 5:26 PM