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Do You Brag About Your Kids?
April 28, 2009 at 10:19 AM by Cafe Kierna - Comments (12)
I do! But you know how some moms brag about their kids, family and things so much, it drives you nuts?
"Oh Susie is such a good swimmer! She wins every meet. The instructor thinks she could make it to the Olympic trials in 16 years. My baby, an Olympian! Johnny is so handsome. Everyone tells me I should put him in modeling. I would but you know he's the star of the soccer team and basketball team, when will I find time? Girl, did you see the new BMW? We're gonna get one right after we redo the bathroom. My husband simply spoils me!"
An anonymous mom asked something interesting: "Do you think someone who brags a lot about having a perfect family and being really happy, is? Or do you think they say that because there's another issue at hand that they are trying to hide from their peers?"
It's the second part of this question that stopped me. See, there's a fine line between wanting to share your blessings with the world, and working hard to project a reality you think you should have. As moms, we are all programmed to talk about our kids all the time. For most of us, they're the center of our world. But when bragging is about making someone else feel bad, or about trying to convince others about your "perfect" life, people usually see right through it.
Do you know someone who brags too much about her kids?
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What parent Does NOT brag about thier kid(s) ??????? I know I do and I know my friends brag about thiers ............ it's a parents given right to brag .
I do brag about my kids and I never thought that I did it too much until one day I was belly-aching about my son on here in a a chat and a good friend of mine said "Cody? I thought he was perfect and could do no wrong!" So now, I am not so sure. I never said he would be in the Olympics though, does that count for anything?
I brag about mine all the time. But not in the wrong situations. At least I try not to. It's hard to know where the boundaries are sometimes with certain people. Like...my son is 6 months old and he has slept through the night (11-12 hrs.) since he was 2 1/2 months, and he RARELY cries.... my friend has a baby 1 week older than my son and apparently it pisses her off if I tell her ANYTHING good about my son. But my son has been so good since birth, that all I have to say is very good things about him, so I feel like I can't say ANYTHING about him without pissing her off.... ya know?
I have met a few mothers who upon meeting made me green with envy about their perfect lives, perfect husbands & perfect children...only to find out their skeletons were just in a larger closet than mine! I also have met many more mothers who are in love with their lives & their lives are perfect for them. I think when the bragging is out of love you should do it all day long - when its out of need, you should zip it.
Most of the things I say about my daughter are good things. She is practically perfect, you know...=)
I think the difference between people who are just proud of their children/husband/life and people who have some kind of issue that makes them feel they NEED to brag is the former will eventually stop once they realize it's getting old. The latter continues at the expense of all around her.
Simply put...Normal people know when it's time to shut up/
To the first poster I would tend to disagree with the idea that if your son had delays you could go on and on. I have twins with developmental delays. Most people just don't get the things I brag on. For example, when my daughters were 5 they finally mastered potty training. Try bragging about that to your friends. Most of the time you get the "so what look" or "isn't that nice those poor disabled kids" pity is not the same as being proud of what they can do. Most people assume my twins will never do the stuff normal kids will do.
As far as bragging that is the greatest gift my children have given me. You see I also have a bright gifted daughter. She excels in most academic endeavors. This was pretty evident by kindergarten. By that time I also had the twins, at that point we didn't know if they would ever talk, much less excel. One day I was talking about some new skill the twins had picked up and my oldest asked me why I didn't brag about her. I realized I had come to expect her to do well so I wasn't recognizing her accomplishments. My twins help me remember to celebrate the big and the small accomplishments. So I probably seem obsessed with my kids and brag a lot. So what! I only have them for a short time, I want the world to know I have great kids.
all parents should be proud of there kids and brag about them, it great being a mom
well, my son turned 32yrs old today....He did not receive my card yet. He might get it on Wednesday. I woke up this am at the same time of his birth time 6:07am
My youngest son (who is 19) will be graduating from high school on May 22, 2009. Then off to college in August 2009.
Kids grow up too fast. I can remember when they were babies. They both are totally different from one another. There were days they looked alike while they were growing up.
Still love them lots and could not ask for better boys. Never gave me trouble growing up.
Bragging has a negative connotation. Seeing a proud parent is a wonderful feeling!! And emotions are contagious. So keep spreading the good feeling!
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I have learned online that you really have to be careful what you say if you don't want the snarky remarks. If my son had delays I could go on and on and no one would care. I mention on rare occasion he is gifted I am bragging and made someone feel bad. So I don't share much of my sons accomplishments in most parenting groups. I find it sad I have allowed others to make me feel that way and might just start bragging away.lol
I am not bothered by moms being proud of their kids. All moms should brag about their kids and be proud of them all kids are special. This may be the only place they can talk about it and someone will listen. I love hearing positive stuff about families much more so than all the negative people write about. You can tell the moms who are over compensating usually. They are usually pretty judgemental as well as being braggarts.
momtoonecuteboy Apr. 28, 2009 at 10:58 AM