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Do They Still Call You "Mommy"?

November 17, 2009 at 2:39 PM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (16)

tween boy

Photo by Emmy_Dollface

My 6 year old still calls me "Mommy" most of the time, but randomly now he'll stick in the generic "Mom," and I think, wow, that just sounds so grown up.

My 30-something friend still refers to and addresses her mother as "Mommy" and to me it doesn't seem to fit.

My father will sometimes use the term in third person -- "Go ask Mommy what she wants to do about dinner" -- and I guess that sounds okay because he still considers me his little girl, plus it makes me feel young.

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FILED UNDER: teens, tweens

I Was Bullied and the Teacher Laughed

November 11, 2009 at 6:56 AM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (6)

school classroomCyberbullying is the buzz word these days, but let's not forget about the regular, old-fashioned, in-person bullying we knew as kids. It's still happening and one of the many disturbing things about that is that it mostly takes place in the classroom, according to a new study by the American Public Health Association. Not in unsupervised locations. But right under the noses of teachers.

I'm not shocked at this. I have firsthand experience.

This mean boy I'll call Tom Sawyer used to bully me in high school. Anytime I wore a piece of clothing the color red, Tom would call me a "Communist." If you were a teen during the Cold War era, you'd know how hurtful that insult was. Why Tom started doing this IDK. I guess because like all bullies he was a weak jerk and it made him feel good to pick on shy girls.

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FILED UNDER: behavior, bullies, in the news, teens, tweens

Fighting Siblings -- 9 New Ways to Make Them Stop

November 10, 2009 at 2:17 PM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (6)

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Photo by 1avon-mom

I love that my kids are only 18 months apart because they enjoy the same toys, games and activities and play so well together. Their closeness in age also means they fight really well together, specifically screaming, name-calling, punching, and hitting.

I've learned from other moms in Tween Titans that often this does not stop when they are older; the yelling and hitting just escalates to the next super-frustrating level.

Help for sibling rivalry is a common question on CafeMom, as are the typical remedies: time-outs, withdrawal of privileges, etc. One mom in a recent Tween Titans post said her friend actually duct tapes her two children back-to-back and makes them do things cooperatively for a few hours.

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FILED UNDER: behavior, sibling rilvary, tweens

Santa vs. Edward Cullen

November 4, 2009 at 7:00 AM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (7)

baby in santa outfit

Photo by lukeNgavinsmom

Now that Halloween is over, talk with turn to the holidays. Not so much Thanksgiving,  but the good ones that involve toys. In case your Big Kid might be tempted to spill the beans about Santa to your little ones who still believe, here's a funny story.

anetrnlov found this on Facebook. I don't know if it's true or not, but what a great comeback line ...

"Today, my 6 year-old daughter was asking me questions about Santa Claus at dinner. My 13 year-old daughter was getting annoyed with all the dumb questions and simply told her younger sister that Santa didn't exist. Instead of being aghast and upset, my younger daughter just said, 'Yeah, but neither does Edward Cullen!' "

"My older daughter left the dinner table and I think its easy to say who won tonight."

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FILED UNDER: holidays, tweens

Mom of Tween: Video Games Keep Us Close

October 26, 2009 at 7:04 AM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (4)

tween at baseball game

Photo by The-Autism-Mom

One of the biggest challenges for CafeMoms of tweens and teens is how to get their child to talk. Moms know that a good way to connect and bond is finding something they both have in common, but ... um, not easy. We're talking tweens here. 

But one mom has found a way -- through video games.

It's not every mom's way, but it has worked for delibcreate, mom of 10 year old David and a gamer herself before her son came along. "If you can't beat em, join em," is her philosophy.

I talked to delibcreate about why she feels the benefits of video games far outweigh the negatives, and how playing games with her son has strengthened their relationship:

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FILED UNDER: activities, internet, technology, tweens

Autistic Scout Saves Teacher

October 21, 2009 at 9:43 AM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (1)

I love hearing stories like these. Not stories about people choking -- I'd never wish that on anyone. But stories about the heroes who save them from dying, especially when they are children with special needs.

It reminds us that they can do anything and everything that typically functioning kids do.

Here's a clip of Kyle Forbes, an autistic child who saved his teacher from choking on an apple by delivering the Heimlich maneuver he learned in Cub Scouts.

Thanks to the ladies in the Newcomer's Club for pointing this one out.

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FILED UNDER: developmental delays, health, safety, tweens

Rainbow Brite Gets Thin, Glams Up

October 20, 2009 at 7:02 AM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (14)

Rainbow Brite fashion dolls

The new Rainbow Brite dolls, coming spring 2010.

In the 1980s when she was first introduced by Hallmark, the animated character Rainbow Brite had chunky little legs, wore her hair in a messy ponytail and seemed as unconcerned about her looks as most other little orphan girls who are trying to save Rainbow Land from the evil King of Shadows ... wait ...

What I should really do is save myself some trouble and just repost the Dora article I wrote a couple of months ago, inserting Rainbow Brite's name in instead.

Because I'm basically telling the same story.

Hallmark is relaunching its popular franchise with more mature, fashion-conscious Rainbow Bright fashion dolls, including Moonglow and Tickled Pink. Plus, they are wearing lipstick and blush. As you can see, these are not your typical orphans.

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FILED UNDER: clothes, in the news, toys, tweens

Jaycee Dugard: First Photo in 18 Years

October 14, 2009 at 2:27 PM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (4)

child's abandoned tricycle

People magazine has the first photograph of kidnap victim Jaycee Dugard, who was abducted from her South Lake Tahoe home over 18 years ago when she was 11. Click the above link to see how beautiful and happy she looks, though I'm sure the pain and sadness is many layers deep.

Her kidnappers, Phillip and Nancy Garrido of Antioch, California, forced the girl to live in a shed in their fenced in back yard.

Phillip Garrido allegedly raped her repeatedly, fathering two daughters, now 15 and 11, who grew up believing that Jaycee was their big sister.

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FILED UNDER: in the news, safety, tweens

Tween Life: Family vs. Friends

October 9, 2009 at 7:06 AM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (3)

tween giving the peace sign

Photo by 4timesblessed

Does this describe your tween?

They never want to go on family outings OR They always want to bring a friend along.

If they go alone, they are miserable and mope around the whole time. If you let them bring the friend, they spend all their time hanging out with her and ignoring you and other family members.

One mom over in Tween Titans is at the point of frustration with her 12 year old. She has a younger child to think about, too.

"Our outings are ruined or I just don't end up doing as much with her because of the unpleasantness from my other daughter," she says. "When we do bring a friend along, the outing is not as enjoyable for the rest of us either. Why can't my daughter just enjoy outings with me and her sister?! Or understand that she makes things so unpleasant for the rest of us, even though I have sat down and explained things over and over and over again?"

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FILED UNDER: behavior, friends, tweens

Does Your 10-year-old Want a Perfect Body?

October 2, 2009 at 11:47 AM by Cafe Kim - Comments (2)

scaleWe know that dissatisfaction with body image and eating disorders are serious issues when it comes to our kids. But how early should we be looking for the warning signs?

According to Time, new research suggests that children as young as 10- and 11-years-old already have notions of the "ideal body"...and that's not all...

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FILED UNDER: health, tweens

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