July 1, 2009 at 4:46 PM by Cafe Cynthia - Comments (4)
I'm not talking about softball. Nef8eria asked the moms in Marriage and Relationships to take a good hard look at themselves and consider the family member, friend, ex, child, or co-worker they compete against the most in their lives.
"For me, it's my in-laws, particularly my sister-in-law and mother-in-law, as well as his nieces," Nef8eria says. "My husband always puts me in a position to feel bad if I'm not doing things the way they are doing them. So in order to keep him off my shoulders, I try to comply (rolling eyes)."
Competing against in-laws is big. So are mothers, twin sisters, girlfriends, step-children and cars LOL!
Bully for the moms who say they don't compete against anyone, like shell1m:
"Everyone is good at different things, and quite frankly it's sooo draining to try and compete with people. It causes strain on families. I like who I am, and it took me a LONG time to be able to say that. So I just enjoy my husband and kids and try not to get too aggravated with my family."
Who do you compete with in your life? Tell me why ..
FILED UNDER: emotional health, relationships, stress
Compete for what that is senseless, I don't get why people feel the need to. Honestly trying to keep up with the Jones will kill you. I can only be me and that is all. I guess some people just want to be better than others and they feel no one else can have more than them or have something a little nicer. In reality it's stupidity and they need to grow up.
It seems like everyone is competing with me. I know...crazy, but I am not a competive person and so I feel like I have to work twice as hard to get anywhere. Just my feelings here.
I compete with myself I guess. I am continually setting goals for myself, and assessing their value as it applies to my life and that of my family. I spent plenty of my earlier years competing with others, and it was a waste of my time and energy.
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Thankfully no one. I learned in high school that I don't like competition on any level, so I choose to not compete in any venue. The closest I come to competition is "racing" my son to see who gets dressed fastest. Of course, that mean's I'm often left with one leg in my pajama bottoms for 3 minutes so I don't win. :) Of course, it all helps that I'm not married, have no in-laws, and my closest family members are 1,000 miles away, so there's no pressure to compete against anyone, either!
JPsMommy605 Jul. 1, 2009 at 7:16 PM