NO.  I think it's bull that some people think that too.

When my ex-husband split he moved out of my house and back home, over 400 miles away.  We were done, had no contact and were just waiting for our court date and I hate a bunch of people (including his family) tell me that I was cheating on him when I started seeing another guy.  Guess I was supposed to wait almost a year for our court date.  I don't think so.  If it's over, it's over.

aurorabunny Jul. 10, 2009 at 12:11 PM

Yes,  I am going through this right now. I have been separated from my husband since April and he is already on his 2nd girlfriend.  He has slept with the 1st one and probably this one.  I feel that it is not right to date while married.  Not only to the "other" spouse but to the person that you are dating since until that divorce you cannot go any further than dating/engaged unless of course you break the law.  I feel that I am being the bigger person by waiting and teaching my children about moral.  I have a poll with this very question on the polls.

xasasa Jul. 10, 2009 at 12:20 PM

i agree. You should wait until the devorse is final. it is still adultry. Its only a short time, and if you found someone then you should still wait until it is final and then persue it. But that is my opinion and everyone is different, of course i wouldnt get married unless i was sure it would last forever.

28Armywife Jul. 10, 2009 at 2:20 PM

OTHER~Marriage comes in two parts, emotional and legal aspects. Both parts have different requirements to sever the knot.

Legally it's still adultery, if your tiring to follow every single letter of the law..

Morally, in my book; it's not. The marriage is over. It's just that both parties are waiting for the legal system to catch up with the emotional breakup of the marriage.

isabellalecour Jul. 10, 2009 at 2:35 PM

Nope. I met my current husband while going through a divorce. My ex-husband was a douche and was dating, so why the hell couldn't I? I mean, he's the one who wouldn't sign the damn papers...why should I put my life on hold for him? He's the one who beat me, a pregnant woman, why should I sit in the house like a recluse and not look for companionship? To me, the relationship is over as soon as those papers are filed. The rest is all legalities.

Emmy_Dollface Jul. 10, 2009 at 3:27 PM

As far as I'm concerned, it is still adultery.  Of course, I've never been married, either.  But at the same time, I won't date a divorced man until AFTER the papers are signed.  Until then, the marriage is still valid and, the hopeless optimistic in me says...there's still a chance for reconciliation.

JPsMommy605 Jul. 10, 2009 at 3:57 PM

Personally haven't been in the situation, so its hard for me to judge.. but IMO once the papers have been served, and the two adults are agreeing that the marriage is OVER, legally or not... it is their business and their business only what they do from there.

Cheating on a spouse BEFORE serving the papers though? That's low down.

LuminousMom Jul. 10, 2009 at 4:14 PM

So it's immoral for two people are have split, living in different states, having no communication with each other what-so-ever to date other people because they're waiting on someone to stamp a piece of paper?  Right.

I mean there's a grey area, if people are still living together but saying they're "seperated", or "seperated" but still seeing each other...that's different.

aurorabunny Jul. 10, 2009 at 5:05 PM

I think so. I mean your still legally married so why cant you wait until the divroce is final?

momavanessa Jul. 10, 2009 at 6:06 PM

I mean divorce**

momavanessa Jul. 10, 2009 at 6:09 PM