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Rudest Comments While Pregnant!
December 1, 2008 at 11:58 AM by Cafe Melisa - Comments (34)
People never cease to amaze me. When I was pregnant, someone I know casually (not even a total stranger!) commented on my size -- she touched my belly, looked at me with grave concern, and said "You're so small! I mean, is everything OK?" I was floored. Like, if things aren't OK with this pregnancy, I don't want to talk to you about it....
There's a thread about rude comments in Pregnancy, too -- I've checked it out and compiled a few chestnuts. Here are a few of the things some super-clueless people have said to us pregnant gals.
Rude Comments While Pregnant
- "When were you due, like, yesterday?"
- "I bet you're liking those boobs! They look nice cause she's pregnant, but they probably won't after she has the baby." (To the husband of a mom-to-be while they were out shopping.)
- "You look too young to be having a baby...."
- "How much weight have you gained?"
- "Are you SURE there's just one in there?"
- "Teen pregnancy is destroying our nation -- you shouldn't be thinking about sex, let alone having a baby." (To a married 21-year-old mama.)
- "God, you're gigantic."
- "Is she pregnant AGAIN?" (Overheard.)
- "Are you sure there's a baby in there?" (To a first-time mama not showing in a big way.)
- "Your boobs were huge to start with -- man, what will they look like in the coming months?!"
- "If you get any bigger, you won't fit into the shower."
- "You are TOO ROUND for us to be doing the nasty anymore."
- "Are you going to be eating those all by yourself?" (To a mom buying donuts at the grocery store.)
- "I'm sure your baby's going to come early -- there's no way you could make it all the way to your due date." (The mama politely asked the woman to see her medical degree.)
So, tell me -- what's the rudest thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
FILED UNDER: motherhood, the pregnant life
Comments:
A total stranger at Walmart grumped, "Don't you know what causes that?" I had foster kids with me, so baby would be number 9.... I thought he was joking, but he was serious! What, am I asking you to help babysit?????
Well I think the people who were the most rude and upset me the most were the nurses in the hospital when I had my daughter! I was 17 But I had been married for OVER a year to a SOLDIER we had a good income, insurance, and I lived in the same town eith my family. They kept telling me I was doing everything wrong and doing things behind my back and scolding me about everything! They were so mean I had locked my self in a bathroomso that I didn't have to hear them anymore!
I was very large with my daughter so although they are already listed above I got; "are you sure there isn't two in there?" often and I also go, "Are you sure they have the right due date?" I was always shocked when I got it from another "Mom" since they have been there done that but my neighbor I had never met until this day said "Wow, I can't believe you have two more months to go, I NEVER got that big even in the end" How do you like that?
Everybody, and I mean EVERYBODY, keeps commenting on how huge my tummy is. My mother included. Yesterday she said, "What happened? I just saw you last week and you weren't THAT big". Bite me.
I always got "wow, I can't believe how much weight you gained. How are you going to lose all of it once the baby is here?" And "I think you're doc is wrong. There HAS to be 2 in there." Or "wow, pregnancy is really wearing on you. You look awful." "You look like you're about to pop any minute." I'm sure I could think of more.........
I've had people comment about my size "Have you gained enough?" Well, YES if you must know. With my last two, the books said to gain 35, I ganed 40 - 45. Well, I'm pregnant with my third now. The other day I saw my hubby's granmother looking me over intently. We were in a room full of other family members. When I turned to her, she said, "Looks like you're carrying your baby in the back." Puzzled, I said, "What do you mean." "Your rear!" she replied, like I was stupid and didn't understand what she was saying. I just laughed and said, "Well then obviously, that's not baby back there." Everything was quiet and my sister in law and mom in law started defending me, telling me how big they got when they were prego. THat made me feel better, but still, HOW RUDE! And she had to say it in a room full of people as if I didn' t know my ASS WAS GETTING BIG!
i was at walmart with my first son who was 19 months old and i was pregnant with my second son who was due a month later. 2 older women who thought i couldn't hear them said, "you think she would have learned from her first mistake." i figured they thought i was a teen mom because i look younger than i am. but, even so, wait until i can't hear you before you make such judgemental comments!
for the record, i was 24 and had been married 5 years. i had my first baby 3 years after getting married.
It was always the "Are you sure there aren't two in there?" for me, and people always rubbing the belly. That drove me crazy.
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I was 23 and married and my husband was hospitalized, I walked to the cafeteria. A man saw me and said, "Such a shame babies havin' babies, what are you going to? How are you going raise that baby?"
I just looked at him and said, "I am 23 and married is that a problem with you?"
richgirljj Dec. 1, 2008 at 12:45 PM