I honestly dont think it is that big of a deal as far as telling someone online. I mean, chances are that someone already has that name anyways.. however if it was a family member that knew i was picking that name and they had their kids first, i would be livid. but then you would have to change the names of yours bc you dont want the names to be the same if its in your family. but as far as online goes i shared my names for my daughter... i dont think thats a big deal. madison is a popular name anyway!

NSeni Apr. 12, 2009 at 6:56 AM

We don't have names decided lol. Well, if it's a boy we do, and the name isn't *popular* but it's around, so I am sure someone we know will name their kid it, but it's what DH wants.

With Becka, we didn't know until I was 71/2 months pregnant, and we didn't tell anyone until it was closer to giving birth. His family knew first, my mom is over opinionated about names and says things like "eww, gross" or "that's awful" whenever I would discuss possible options, and it was hurting my feelings something bad, so we just don't talk to her about it.

The two people who are preggo I know wouldn't steal my baby names lol, so it doesn't matter :)

celticreverie Apr. 12, 2009 at 7:29 AM

Surprisingly, as huge as my family is (it adds up to 72 when counting grandma, all aunts, uncles, grandkids and great-grandkids), we've all got different names. The only double names are a few Aunts who were married in and then my older brother and my cousins new babe.

I think we all want different names for all the new babies coming (Mine will be great-grandbaby number 6), so we tell eachother our name ideas so we know what names NOT to choose.

BatGirl1415 Apr. 13, 2009 at 12:00 AM

I wasn't worried. In fact, some good friends named their son the same as our second about a year after our son was born. They don't live in the same town, his name's not that unusual, and we were sort of flattered. By the same token, I was annoyed to find out some acquaintances who recently moved across town just named their son the same name as our first son. His name is more unique, and for some reason, I was irritated. I guess I wanted her to ask permission. LOL.

Cafe Sheri Apr. 13, 2009 at 12:39 AM

A lady at work has just taken my boy name (I am 16 weeks and am sure this is a boy). I am annoyed because I did tell her my picked out names, and whilst she was umming and arhing over names, she didn't seem that interested. The bit that bites is that it is a very small school we work at, so the staff, parents and children will now think I have copied her. I don't think she has done it spitefully, but it has gotten to me a bit. I am still going to use the name - it was my beloved grandfathers name - but am irritated that now I am going to have everyone say "oh, thats what so and so named hers isn't it..." and I am going to sound silly saying "yes, but it was my name first!!"

mummy2tristan Apr. 13, 2009 at 6:44 AM

'Stealing names', I think that is so silly.  Do people really think that no one else is ever going to use the name?  My cousin named her daughter just what I was going to name a girl....didn't have one though.  Guess what I had never even told her the name, we both thought of the same name...it was a family name, and that means they were being named, SOMEONE ELSE'S NAME.  I still could have named a girl that, and no one would have cared.  My son is Nicholas James, Nick was after an LSU coach(hubby named him, lol) and James is my father/brother/nephew's middle names....my nephew was psyched to have his little cousin named 'after him'.  Sorry but names are not personal property, anyone can use them.  BTW, I am pregnant with Benjamin Luke...feel free to use it.

njpmom06 Apr. 13, 2009 at 9:55 AM

We  could never tell the sex of our first. But since the begining we had picked out Dylan for a boy and around 7 mo. Emma Renee. Her dad loved the name dylan, we both liked Emma, and I picked Renee after my dad who's middle name is Rene. So they were definate names, depending on the sex. And she ended up being Emma Renee.

This time I have the boy name ready, I just have to come up w/a girl name (cause i don't know the sex yet.

When my brother's gf was preggo and found out she was having twins(boy & girl) they immediately picked out names. So we knew their names, even though they weren't born yet. Nobody from either family, thought about "stealing" the names cause they were definate names.

emmasmama2007 Apr. 13, 2009 at 2:13 PM

I'll be quite honest...If someone close to me used a name for a baby that I was going to use in the very near future, I would be upset. I had a friend who was pregnant (she miscarried at 16 weeks) with twins and one of her names was on my list of possibilities but once she had picked them, I decided to take it off. And even now that she won't be using it, I wouldn't even think of it.

 

But for someone online using, I doubt I'd be very upset. I mean...It's kind of weird but it's not like you'll ever meet that person. Besides, you have no idea where they saw the name in question from.

madamekatekate Apr. 13, 2009 at 6:39 PM

We kept ours secret but not because of name theft. When we were pregnant with our 9 month old, Anastasia, we found a boy name first; Nicholai. Hubbys family had no problem stating their negative opinions, "I like Nicholas. Go with Nicholas." in rude, sarcastic tones of voice. As if they had a say in it! We'll, she turned out to be a girl and we kept her name hidden until she was born. Now were 5 months pregnant with our boy and yet again we have to hide because of their unsolicited opinions.

SpiritedTigress Apr. 13, 2009 at 8:40 PM

wow with this last comment....i am pregnant and we had decided on a girl name but not a boy name. When we shared the girl name with my in-laws they just said I couldn't name the baby that if it was a girl because my mother-in-law had a run in with a person by the name. I was like so. But it turns out it is a boy so that is one argument I have let the wind take away.

rayelinsragz Apr. 14, 2009 at 3:06 PM