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Woman Blogs About Her Miscarriage
November 3, 2009 at 7:00 AM by Cafe MicheleZ - Comments (12)
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Some people are very private; others don't mind sharing it all. But with social networking, blogging, Twitter, and other outlets for the whole world to see, is there such a thing as sharing too much?
One woman, Penelope Trunk, a 42 year-old single mom, blogged about her miscarriage and it created quite a stir.
It wasn't just that she shared her loss that rattled people -- she wrote that she was relieved for having lost her baby so she wouldn't have to have an abortion.
Her actual tweet was "I'm in a board meeting having a miscarriage. Thank goodness because there's a f#*ked-up 3-week hoop jump to have an abortion in Wisconsin."
There's a lot more to the story....
Trunk has a post on her blog, Brazen Careerist, about the tweet that caused such a stir.
Here are some excerpts from her blog:
Throughout history, the way women have gained control of the female experience is to talk about what is happening, and what it's like. We see that women's lives are more enjoyable, more full, and women are more able to summon resilience when women talk openly about their lives.
To all of you who said I should not be happy about having a miscarriage: You are the ones short on empathy. Any woman who is pregnant but wishes she weren’t would of course be grateful when she has a miscarriage. Yes, there are many women who want the baby and have a miscarriage. I was one of them. I cried for days. I get it.
But if you have ever had an abortion, which I have, you would know that a miscarriage is preferable to an abortion. Even the Pope would agree with that.
What do you think? Is this too personal a topic to blog or tweet about? Or does it just depend on the person -- if they are willing and want to share, they should share?
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Comments:
It's her life and last time I checked she still has freedom of speech. If she wants to blog about it then she can.
I had a miscarriage back in May (I'd actually probably be in the hospital having the baby right now...like today if I hadn't miscarried) and I was more relieved then anything. I don't deny it. I just wasn't ready to have another baby right now (we already have 4 kids) and, although the experience was painful and terrifying, I was mostly just relieved when it was over and went on with my life. I didn't even think about for another 3 months or so. It wasn't a pleasant experience but I didn't cry about it or mourn afterwards. Life just went on.
You mean life isn't about rainbows and butterflies!!?? *gasp*
I find the ability for her to be ok with her feelings (good and bad) as inspiring.
@Happypancake, love that response! That's how I see it too.
If she feels comfortable blogging about it, that's up to her. Her emotional reaction to her miscarriage is her own- like anyone else, she is entitled to her feelings, whatever they may be and whatever others may think about them.
I don't see who determines what is too much to share. We don't all have the same lines. Would I have tweeted about it? No, but I don't think she's broken some sort of rule over it. Sure, it's shocking for her to be so blase' about it, but she's being honest, and she's entitled to feel however she wants to. And share it.
i find it disgusting. nothing wrong with sharing ifyou had m/c if you are dealiing with it...but to put it so bluntly & almost sound happy with it? gross. i know so many women who stlil suffer from a M/c & to see a lady just be flippant about it peeves me
I agree with happypancake. Just because it's not a pleasant topic doesn't mean she shouldn't talk about it.
Hell, my friends and I discuss our sex lives, and there are people who think that's horrid.
its kinda cool to see such a different point of view then mine...She is the one living with her actions and what she blogs about. I don't agree, and i would never do what she has done, nor would i EVER donate to planned parenthood lol but she is a strong women for standing proud and being so honest with the world!
it sounds from the short bit that she didnt want the baby to begin with, so. . . .
some pople just vent in different way.i think there should be a warning like a do not read if you easily affend.but besides that, whatevez
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I dont share mine. But everyone do what they want. I dont mind if they are not too graphic about it. Maybe it was her way to let go all her pain.
nily Nov. 3, 2009 at 7:23 AM