Id be uncomfertable with ANY woman trying to pretend she is MY child's mother.Id be happy if she treated him/her good but NOT try to replace me.She's overdoing it

babysyoungmom1 Mar. 30, 2009 at 4:57 PM

I agree, I know that someday my son's father will probably re-marry or have a serious relationship, and I want her to TREAT my child like he is her own.. but don't claim him as your own; he has a MOTHER, thank you. (Obviously that would be different IF the Bio-mother is non-existent but.. that's a totally different topic)

AMsMommy212 Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:00 PM

i agree, im not sure how i would feel if my ex's new girlfriend started to say my daughter was her's. i mean yea i would be glad that they have a good relationship because who would want their child to hate the other mom figure. but come on what is the BM take on all this??

blairsmommy Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:07 PM

I'd have to slap 'er, personally. Wonder if she's trying to egg the bio mom?

I don't know how far all this new age woo-woo parenting goes, but if someone crossed that line, I wouldn't sit for it.

My baby.

MINE!

MizKizzy Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:18 PM

Love him and treat him as though he were you own, but don't call him that?  It's a ridiculous argument that just illuminates how a stepmom will be wrong no matter what she does.

Avarah Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:30 PM

I'm all for step parents having a positive relationship with their step children and the bio mom, but that is a little creepy.  To say he is 100% hers does cross a line.  That would not sit well with me no matter how close I was to the new wife.  Saying something like she feels like he is hers or treats him like he is hers is fine.  But that he is hers and has been since birth is creepy and overstepping boundaries.  Plus how the heck does she know?  I don't believe she has any of her own.  Which only makes it creepier!

sunshine06 Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:32 PM

The only way I'd say that is a normal attitude is if the BM it totally out of the picture.  Which it doesn't specify. 

aurorabunny Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:38 PM

it depends on the relationship with the mom... and in this case it's not the best so she shouldn't be so gushy in public.

Veela Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:41 PM

To treat him like as if he was yours is one thing. But to say he IS yours is overstepping the biological parental boundaries I think.

I would expect that a step parent would want to care for their stepchildren with all the love and care they would give their own, but to openly say I feel like he is mine is pushing it.

Kays_Mama06 Mar. 30, 2009 at 5:58 PM

Right on!! This is one Step-Mother who is stepping up to include the child in her life. She may actually care about him and how terrible would that be?  She is defining her role as the child's life. The child might end up with three concerned and loving adults who want the best for him. He might actually have the village... you know ... the village that so many people speak of ... you know the one that it takes to raise a child?

BTW, just because she didn't birth him doesn't mean that she is not accountable for his happiness and well-being. Protecting and including your husband's children in your life - what an idea? What if the idea catches on? Children knowing that they are safe with both biological parents and their respective mates - WOW! Children need to be loved and guided when at home and when the child is in her home that is her job; she is the child's Step-Mom. Ultimately the word for her role in the child's life is not Step-My Daddy's-Wife it is Step-Mom.

japfink Mar. 30, 2009 at 6:24 PM