Mom Confessions: I'm Afraid My Husband Is Going to Die

i so want to offer some conforting words right now. but i cant. all i can say is we can hope that he wont. but we as army familys sign'd up for this. this is just one thing that goes with the teriotory. especially during deployment. hell i didnt get any sleep last night b/c my husband told me he was going to volunteer to go over there early.  and were TTC # 3. if you ever need someoen to talk to message me...

sandraberke Sep. 25, 2009 at 11:23 AM

My husband is military, but when he was deployed, it was on submarines.  There is some major risks there, but I didn't worry non-stop.  I'm more scared of him driving at night.

I'm much more terrified something will happen to my kids.

RanaAurora Sep. 25, 2009 at 12:29 PM

My husband is a Marine and is deployed to Afghanistan right now, so yes, I understand. I pray every single day for his safe return home. If he died, I don't think I would turn to drugs or alcohol, but I do think that I would need some SERIOUS help and medicine. I might literally lose my mind. My husband means absolutely everything to me!

kmg0528 Sep. 25, 2009 at 4:03 PM

My husband works near powerlines and his co-workers have had some close calls, including one death in the last year. I know he tries his damnedest to stay safe, but I still worry. One slip and I'm a widow.

fmchavez Sep. 26, 2009 at 12:01 AM

As odd as this sounds, my DH is not in the military and I STILL worry that he will die. First of all...he drives for his job...he's a technician and that means a lot, a lot of road time. Did you know that one person dies every 13 min. from a car accident. DIES. So, very very freaked out about that.

Also, he's a heavy smoker so I worry about the dreaded 'lung cancer' not such a suprise, suprise.

The important thing to remember is that no one is here forever, we need to live each moment to the fullest with them!

ethans_momma06 Sep. 26, 2009 at 2:13 AM

You cannot live your life constantly worrying about him dying. Trust me. I became a widow at the age of 29. No one wants that phone call, or " the" car pulling up in the front of their house.  My husband was a firefighter killed in the line of duty. I was left to raise my five year old alone, and really had no idea how I was to go on.  It was the most terrible experience of my life. When I renarried, I had to tell him every time he walked out the door that I loved him and to be careful.  I would be completely insane if I thought about it all the time. I just try to put it at the back of my mind and live each day in thanks for him. It totally puts things in perspective and reminds you of what really matters- and does'nt matter in life.  Wrap your arms a little tighter around your loved ones and let them know how much you love them. My late husbands last words to us were "I love you both", and we will always have that.

halfpintboling Sep. 30, 2009 at 12:23 AM