What can I expect when I bring my newborn home from the hospital?

I am almost eight months pregnant and everybody warns me of how terrible it will be with a newborn and how I'll never sleep and I'll only argue with my husband and be a crabby patty.

Is it really that bad?
I really don't feel it will be, but I've never lived with an infant before.

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bluelady27

Asked by bluelady27 at 3:28 PM on Jan. 3, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • If you try to be superwoman it will be terrible. Sleep when your baby sleeps and don't try to cook/clean and you will be fine. The more your husband steps up, the better it will be for you.
    MamaChamp

    Answer by MamaChamp at 3:31 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • i dont think it was bad. i was overjoyed to finally bring my baby home. as long as you have everything you need you will be fine. yes you wont sleep, but get used to that, and your gonna be sore but that doesnt last long. you might not even want to clean but who cares. just relax and enjoy your little one
    jbirchard

    Answer by jbirchard at 3:32 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • I didnt find that to be true at all. I brought home three newborns and although its an adjustment(esp. sleep) its not going to cause major issues.

    Im sure there will be changes and your hormones will be flucuating as they level off post partum but really, it will be ok.
    BonesDragonDew

    Answer by BonesDragonDew at 3:32 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • It isn't that bad. But it's a change... but as the mom, you are already starting to wake up all night to pee or whatever... so I felt like I got MORE sleep when we brought him home.
    Although, my son is now 6 months and we are getting far LESS sleep than when he first came home (but that is just our son)
    Hopefully your husband is a big help and doesn't leave all the baby cares to you... because that can cause tension if you are over tired and doing all the work with the new baby.
    AmiJanell

    Answer by AmiJanell at 3:33 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • I didn't have any problems whatsoever! I was so happy to finally meet my baby and I was even happier not being pregnant anymore! I hear people say this too but it didn't hold true in my situation, but I guess everybody is different:)
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:35 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • Its not that bad bringing home a new born baby it you have to do everything and your husband,fiancee or boyfriend doesn't help you.I have a five month old daughter and I do everything for her.I changer her,feed her,bathe her,burp her,dress her and play with her and I have to keep the house clean.My fiancee is home but he sits on his lazy behind and play football on playstation or he's on the computer.
    sadh2005

    Answer by sadh2005 at 3:39 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • It is hard, hard work with little to no "good job" feedback. Remember this:
    Your husband is every bit as good a parent as you are. He may not do things the same way but that's OK. He THINKS you are the better parent and will not offer any of his "incompetent help" if you are always telling him to "do it this way" or stepping in.
    The phrase "sleeps like a baby" is a lie. Babies do NOT sleep. They cat nap - all day and all night long. Most babies do not sleep for 5 hours or more until 4 or 5 months. Sleeping from bedtime to morning can take well over a year.
    Babies do well with a little dirt. Babies raised in too clean homes are at greater risk of developing allergies and asthma. Comfort yourself with that when the house looks messy.
    kaycee14

    Answer by kaycee14 at 3:44 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • its the easiest time they just sleep all the time all you have to do is change them and feed them and they go to sleep lol its when they get older that it gets hard especially when they become mobile! lol
    j_hamb

    Answer by j_hamb at 3:45 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • i think it all depennds on you and how you react to the baby some moms think is super hard and other dont. if anyone offers help take it good luck and congrats/
    rosepetalluv

    Answer by rosepetalluv at 3:49 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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  • Bringing Isabel home was the best time of my life. Just go with the flow, don't stress about the house being spotless, and don't be shy about putting visitors to work. It's such a beautiful time to be bonding with your baby. But you will be sore and tired, and expect some sleepless nights. The advice we've all heard a billion times is true - sleep when the baby sleeps! It made my life so happy!
    MommyJanelle

    Answer by MommyJanelle at 3:50 PM on Jan. 3, 2009

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