Should I put my 12-year-old daughter on birth control?

I think she doing to be in with her friends they all have boyfriends,babies n having sex.what to do.

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Asked by BigMA at 11:32 PM on Jan. 5, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • well I applaud you for being pro-active about this.I believe talking to our kids about not having sex so young is best but you have to also be safe.I think sit down and tell her you want to be sure she is educated.Tell her you in no way are saying "go do it" but you want to keep communication lines open.I do think 12 is too young for the pill but that doesn't mean some girls don't need it.Be proud teenage mom or whatever, good mom is what you are.
    Bearsjen

    Answer by Bearsjen at 11:35 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

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  • i wasn't allowed to date.. or even be in a car with anyone other than my parents, or family of course. until i was 16.. my parents always set very strong guidelines and boundaries. i respect them for that.
    VictinaG

    Answer by VictinaG at 11:35 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

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  • your 12 year old daughter has friends with babies? She needs new friends. Maybe that is harsh. I guess since you were a teenage mom try thinking back and asking yourself what would have prevented your pregnancy. I am a firm advocate in strong and firm parenting rather than handing out birth control. Call me old school I guess but these days pregnancy is one of the lesser complications of having unprotected sex at a young age. Do what you feel is right in your heart. You'll make the right choice
    humaniterian87

    Answer by humaniterian87 at 11:36 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

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  • Whoa have times changed that much ? I mean I did have sex at 15 with my steady bf who turned into my hubby, but 12 !!!

    NO do NOT give her birth control. Take her out, have some Starbucks, buy her a new tee and then have "The talk."

    12 is way too young regardless if her friends are doing it or not. You need to teach her about respecting herself and that even giving bj's etc..is still sex, risk of std's etc...Also how babies are not novelties etc...just in case it's almost a trend to be pregnant at her school.

    Also you can use the fact that you were a teenage mom to open up the subject on why you do not want her to go down that path.

    I mean do talk to her about safe sex, condoms, std's, rape, etc...but try to stress that she is too young and that one day she would regret already starting to sleep with people at 12. Self esteem, how men are just going to use her etc...

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:41 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

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  • Dont put her on the pill just talk to her and to be honest dont be harsh about the no dating until your however old cause well it wont work it'll just make her sneak around trust me i wasnt suppost to date till i was 16 and well lets just say i lost my v-card at 15 so just tell her to be honest with you and that you would like her to wait till shes older to have sex because you know how hard it is to be a young mom i think she'll respect you more
    aubrees_mommie

    Answer by aubrees_mommie at 11:51 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

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  • 12 seems really young to be on the pill. But do talk to her. My oldest is 14 and said she does not want to have sex yet because she has too many things planned for her life. I think she's like that because I have always kept communication open with her. Even when she didn't want to talk about it and was all "ewww...mom." I would just tell her that when she has questions please ask me instead of her friends. So far she has. Like when someone in her class was talking about a girls most "fertile" time of the month & how to tell, she asked me about it. I told her what I thought & we talked about it. She admitted she wasn't sure how to bring it up because she thought I'd get mad & think she was sexually active. I asked her if she was & she assured me that she wasn't. I told her to come to me when she does make that choice & we'll talk about it (even if it's not until she's 30). Idk if she will do that but at least it's out there.
    anime_mom619

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 1:47 AM on Jan. 6, 2009

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  • You need to give you daughter a lesson on LOVE, RESPECT and RESPONSIBILITY. I can understand the 15 year old losing her virginity to her first boyfriend (although I don't agree with it) BUT, 12? Keep her by your side as much as you can and instill the value of your knowledge into her. PLEASE DON'T BE ONE OF THOSE MOMS THAT SAYS....WELL, IF I DID IT, THEN SHE MIGHT. TELL HER IT IS NOT OK, COOL ETC. WITH YOU. BREAK THE DAMN CHAIN!!!!!!!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:32 AM on Jan. 6, 2009

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  • Tell her as much as you can about sex and reproduction. Education is the key. Make sure you tell her how important it is to wait and to be responsible. That she is NOT ready to be a mama. Don't be afraid or hold anything back. If you don't tell her the real deal, she will get all the WRONG answers from her friends, and then God help you both after that. We have an obligation to inform and protect our kids. You only have one shot at it while they are young. So seize it, no matter how uncomfortable.
    hopelessnance

    Answer by hopelessnance at 2:56 AM on Jan. 6, 2009

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  • I think it really depends on your daughter if you think shes going to do it regardless if what you say yes get her on it , the way things are now days its better safe than sorry I have 2 sons and 2 daughters and I would much rather they wait but I also would like them to have the knowledge of birth control just in case they did have sex I have also been honest andstraigh forward  with them about sex and the possible consequences of having sex ever since they were little so it wouldn't be soo taboo when the sex subject came up when they were older

    koolest_mom_of4

    Answer by koolest_mom_of4 at 3:13 AM on Jan. 6, 2009

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  • I have always told them that unless they are financially stable and able to take care of themselves without any help from my hubby and I they do not need to be having sex hopefully its sticks with them : ) they all know how hard it is to watch a baby and I don't sugarcoat life for them as moms I think we need to raise our kids to have a realistic view of life changing subjects
    koolest_mom_of4

    Answer by koolest_mom_of4 at 3:13 AM on Jan. 6, 2009

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