We have a 16 year old Korean-born son. Adoption was always open discussion, same as his ethnicity. But with the teen years and appearance and being "cool" as the thing, could some of his acting out behaviors be a result of accepting the fact that he is Asian in a Caucasian community? He has alot of friends, so no one else has a problem and actually the girls seem to be drawn to him even more so -- he is cute I must say.
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 4:49 PM on Jan. 6, 2009Credits: 6 Level 2
Answer by Anonymous at 4:51 PM on Jan. 6, 2009
I guess there's no way of telling if his acting out is due to being adopted/adopted out of his culture/ or just plain teen stuff. But, I have heard from adult adoptees from Korea that being outside of your own culture is a double whammy. So I agree, do some google searches about it.
Answer by onethentwins at 5:52 PM on Jan. 6, 2009Credits: 12486 Level 22
It is both a cultural and adoption "thing." It is normal. But acting out, depending on the degree of behavioral issues, in not acceptable. Being popular because he is Asian can also be a bummer and a low self-esteem issue. Why? Because knowing that you are one of only two children with an Asian ethnicity is a little awkward. Many kids who are adopted and come from a differnt ethnic/cultural background than their parents are popular. They find they have no choice. Read Black Baby White Hands by Jaya John. He talks openly, painfully candid, about his experiences growing up black in a white family. Sometimes humorous and sometimes so sad it breaks your heart - a must read for all transracial families and a look into understanding the child you adopted.
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