We are adopting a little girl in a couple of months -- at birth. We're confident that the adoption will go through, but I would prefer the shower to take place after the baby is home with us. My family; however, wants to do things before.
We're close to the birthfamily and love them lots. Is it wrong to invite them? We intend on including them on every other aspect of the child's life - should we also invite them to the baby shower? Everyone in the family is comfortable about it, but I don't want to put the birthfamily on the spot if they're not ok with it.
Also, any advice on how exactly to have the baby shower? Should we conduct it like any other? Any advice is welcomed!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 12:19 AM on Jan. 13, 2009 in Hobbies & Crafts
I too am someone who had a baby shower and then no baby... I had a ton of them. So BAD idea. You don't know. The second time around we held our breath and waited...so did our friends, family, and coworkers. And then we brought him home. Inviting the biological family to be a part of the child's life is a wonderful idea. I would call them personally and say that if it is too hard I understand. But just remember not every guest is going to be conscious of what they are saying.....like, "this baby is soooo lucky to have you as parents." In front of a biological family then the unsaid is also true, "this baby is sooooo lucky you are not raising it." It does happen. You can't help that. Discuss why you want them their and then leave it up to them without the pressure. Good luck. But just some advice: really do wait on all showers.
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