Should I take away my toddler's naps?

Not as punnishment but because he sleeps for 14 straight at night and usually cries for the majority of nap time. He wakes up at 9:30am, *takes a nap from 12:30-2pm*, and goes to bed at 7:30/8:00pm. What do you think? He's 20 months old. If I put him down any later than 12:30, he still cries and has a tougher time going to bed at night. Plus, we're about to have a new baby in the house. I'm worried about 'me' time too!!
No bashing please!!


Asked by Anonymous at 6:19 AM on Jan. 16, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • I am also a big fan of the Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child book, but I wouldn't wake him earlier. He is getting 14 hours of sleep. If he is tired and cranky at night I would put him down earlier and see if that makes him wake any earlier (chances are it won't). I would still put him down for a nap maybe even try a little earlier he might be crying because he is overtired even with the 14 hours of night sleep. If that doesn't work you can't force a nap. Just give him some books and soothing music and call it a rest time.

    Answer by mazonmom at 4:15 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • I would wake him up before 9:30 and that should help him to be tired for that 12:30. I would try that first. Have you considered waking him around 7:30? I know that is torture if he is sleeping until 9:30 for you. But if you want that 12:30 nap, you may have too.


    Answer by momof2boys423 at 6:23 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • Every child is diff. but the standard for his age is 10-12 hours a night, and a 1-2 hour nap. If he is happily sleeping 14 a night , its sad but I would wake him up earlier and get the nap in. When he sleeps less at night( the required amount of course just less than 14) then his nap takes up for that other time. When he doesnt take that nap, he is in turn more tired at bedtime, sleeping longer because he is more tired and its a cycle everyday. Just an opinion! With a new baby coming, I understand what you are saying, I would try to get him on a schedule were you can lay him down for naps. I think they are much happier with naps anyway.

    Answer by Shannahboo18 at 6:37 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • I would wake him up earlier. At least 7:30. I think it would make his afternoon nap alot easier. My 23mo goes down at 8pm we get her up at 7 and she takes a nap from 2-4. Each child is different but I hop this helps. Good luch to you.

    Answer by tessntylersmom at 8:44 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • One of two things....if you WANT him to nap...wake him earlier.

    If you don't care about the nap (giving it because he's "supposed" to have one) then do without. If he goes without, how is he later in the day?

    He's sleeping later, he's going to bed earlier. When he naps, he's fighting bedtime. Play around and see what happens.


    Answer by TiccledBlue at 9:07 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • i think he is still atthe age where he needs a nap ...
    maybe try waking him up when he naps

    Answer by britme1027 at 9:41 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • My son has the same schedule since about 6 months old. he makes up between 6 -7:30am. sometimes 5 but we wont go there.
    He is back down for nap by 9am, then wake up atound 11 or soo.
    afternoon nape is from 2pm to about 3:30 - 4
    then he goesn to bed around 7-7:30pm
    i mean he is only 17 months old but i like that scheudle

    Answer by Smashgal at 10:49 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • Since he sleeps so well at night...I would take the nap away and make your son stay in his room for an hour of quiet daughter stopped taking naps at an early age and this works great...we still do them and she is 4 :)

    Answer by ELC at 11:34 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • It depends - how is his behavior in the hours before bedtime? Is he rotten, cranky, whiny? Then he needs that nap.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 11:54 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • Hello, I would try keeping him up an extra half hour or so at night. He seems young to take nap totally away. Or maybe let him take a short quiet rest in the afternoon. Good luck. Sandy from Kentwood Mi.

    Answer by noodle555 at 11:59 AM on Jan. 16, 2009

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