What do you spend your child support on?

Do the Moms give the child support money to the child and let the child spend it whatever the child want or do the Moms spend it on the child on foood, clothing, shelter, and etc.? My child 19 years old demands to have the child support money and spend it the way she wants. Please give me your inputs, thanks a lot!


Asked by chou1autumn at 3:12 PM on Jan. 16, 2009 in Money & Work

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  • 1. Child support is for CHILDREN. Minors under the age of 18 or in school. IE it stops at 18 or when the graduate from high school.
    2. Child support is intended to help cover the costs of raising a child. Food, electricity, water, shampoo, etc.
    3. The payments are made from one PARENT to another PARENT. That means the money is repayment for the parent, not money to be given to the child, for expenses already incurred (See #2.)
    4. If child feels the necessity to take the money, now would be a good time to each this person responsibility. Sure, you can have the money, but you owe me rent. I no longer buy your food. You owe me your share of utilitites. You cannot watch *my* cable unless you want to pitch in. If she has a car and insruance she is not currently paying for, make her pay.

    Get the idea?

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:38 PM on Jan. 19, 2009

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  • No way, if I had enough to cover expenses then I would give her SOME of it for things, but other than that I would spend it on her everyday needs, if any was left over put it in an account for school later.

    Answer by lovinmomto3 at 3:14 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • If she were a minor I would put it in an account for her...so she has something when she either moves out, goes to school, needs a car etc. That money is to help take care of her...not for her to go and spend it on whatever. If she needs clothes that's one thing...but you know what I mean.

    At the same time she's 19...leagally an adult.

    Answer by Lacey1012 at 3:14 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • what? assuming you pay her bills (gas, electric, internet, cable etc.), give her a place to live, clothes to wear and feed her its your money to do with as you please. now if you've kicked her out of the house and shes out on her own thats a different story.

    Answer by Chandra034 at 3:15 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • Technically it does belong to her and it should have put in a trust fund from the beginning.


    Answer by Anonymous at 3:20 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • My kids would get a swift kick in the backside if the "demanded" a dang thing. That money does not BELONG to the child it is to help with the expenses of raising her.
    To the anon at 12:20? Are you out of your mind? That is to help pay the money obligations of raising that child..if you can put it away thats great but that is NOT what Child Support is set up for...

    Answer by mamakirs at 3:30 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • Why is your 19 year old still getting child support? I thought that all stopped when the kid turned 18?

    Anyways, regardless, like an above poster mentioned, if you are using that money to pay for her bills (gas, car insurance, etc) then no she shouldn't get any of it.

    Answer by CarolynBarnett at 3:33 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • Well, first I would remind her that I'm the mother and she has no business making any demands on me. I know, I know...teens. They need those 'gentle' reminders now and again.

    The money is not hers. The money is meant to be used toward the care of the child...food, clothes, electric. Most child support doesn't even begin to cover half of what it costs to raise a child. If she still lives with you, sit her down, show her your bills and figure out how much of that goes toward taking care of her. Compare that to what you get in child support. Then ask her if she's willing to cover the difference.

    It may give her a different perspective on the situation, and help her learn to see all sides of a situation.


    Answer by desert_diva at 3:35 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • Oh Diva.. that was a wonderful answer...good thinkin....oO(will keep that in mind should my 17 year old get too big for her britches)

    Answer by mamakirs at 3:40 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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  • My best friend gets 1375 a mo for her 14 and her 17 yr old children. She pays for their homeschooling (a co op) and pays their tithes and then puts some in savings for them. Then that leaves them each about 200 a mo for what they need. She does sometimes reimburse herself for anything she bought or her household expenses but not usually. She makes them pay their own extras after clothes and cell phones. The 14 yr old wanted an i phone and she told her that she would pay the basics but the extra $30 a mo for the data plan had to come out of her money and the child decided that she didn't want to spend it on that. Smart girl. Shes good with their money.

    Answer by momofsaee at 6:34 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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