How do I help my kids cope with divorce?

They keep asking why we don't live together any more.

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krichey2005

Asked by krichey2005 at 4:09 PM on Jul. 18, 2008 in Relationships

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  • How old are the girls? If they are about five or more years old, they will probably understand any explanation that you give them. Kids are pretty smart.
    lrobles1983

    Answer by lrobles1983 at 4:11 PM on Jul. 18, 2008

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  • Using age appropriate answers is huge- also- as a kid from a divorced family- PLEASE do NOT ever ay ANYTHING bad about the ex in front of the kiddos- tht was the hardest thing I went through- my dad was a jerk- BUT he NEVER said one bad thing about my mom, my mom on the other hand- always made comments, I always felt torn around her, like it wasn't oK to lov my Dad that was WAY worse than them splitting up! As for exactly WHAT to say- I have no idea :) Hang in there...
    jessicasea

    Answer by jessicasea at 8:18 PM on Jul. 18, 2008

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  • just make sure its whats best for you and the kids divorce can be hard .i dont know of the reason of the divorce but people often make mistakes that are not always reason for a divorce i can tell you that forgiveness and love and compassion from both parents is often the best things for the kids so just be strong and try to reason with your husband you might see that it often brings the love and sparks right back to your marriage so look over your options and always keep an open mind and communicate husbands are not always aware of things they may have done to hurt you or cause problems so just take a long look at your life now and think about it is your life 100% complete without him i know trust me there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you might be suprised who is on the other side waiting for you to help you and hold your hand. best of luck and keep an open mind if you need a friend im here to help.Brandi
    beauswife4

    Answer by beauswife4 at 1:31 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

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  • When I left my husband and filed for divorce my son was almost 3 years old. to help explain things to him we made a children's book. In the book we talked about all the arguing going on and how it makes my son and I feel very sad and how we moved so the arguing could stop and we could be safe and happy. It's been a year and a half since then and he still asks me to read it to him. Its a good conversation starter. we drew the pictures together. I told him it's ok to be sad, there are lots of different types of families in the world and we had fun listing the different types.

    The kid's book worked so well we design them for all of our tough to deal with issues... like hospital stays and surgeries, losses, babysitters, etc.
    Hiccup7up1

    Answer by Hiccup7up1 at 6:04 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

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  • When I divorced my first husband my children were 3 months, 6 and 8 years old. My ex's was a total a** and made it hard for the children and me. He was the reason for the divorce (he cheated) and did not feel that he had to pay child support or see his children because I woud not abide by his rules. Well it ended up in the long run hurting my two oldest. Just make sure that you neither of you two bad mouth each other in front of the children and let them know that sometimes adults fall out of love with each other and can not live together in the same house but that does not mean that they stopped loving them and they were not the reason for mommy and daddy not being together, just that adults make mistakes.
    wvgirl64

    Answer by wvgirl64 at 12:00 AM on Jul. 23, 2008

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