Do you have any advice about dealing with being a teen mother?

advice from other teen mothers or mothers to be would be much appreciated in regards to dealing with the judgements of others, and keeping your head high. also advice for telling friends and the rest of the world the news

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CountryLover22

Asked by CountryLover22 at 1:43 AM on Jan. 20, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • keepiung a strong attitude yeah, dont focus so much on the negatives people say or any part of negative. like this post, it seems to just be focused on negativity.

    just ignore that and just keep your head up. dont even think

    "oh what can i do so i dont think negative... "
    JUST DONT THINK LIKE THAT AT ALL.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:48 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • well its your baby...so just be like "who cares what people think"...if we all worried bout what people thought of us, no one would get ahead in life.Your gonna be a mommy.Be proud.Its hard but very exciting..as for teling people..tell them what it is..ya preggers!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:50 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • I was not a teen mother so I cannot give you the "I've been there" advice, but I just wanted to say to keep your head high. Being a mother at any age is a tough job and we do the best we can for our children. People will judge, there is no stopping that, but you just have to believe in yourself and the choices you make as a mother. If you are nervous about telling people I would suggest having a plan, meaning that when you tell them make sure you have let them know that you have thought it out and have a plan as to exactly what you are going to do in regards to school, work, or whatever else is going on in your life and be confident about it. Let them know your mind is made up and the only thing you need from them is their love and support.
    Duckieglc

    Answer by Duckieglc at 1:55 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • i was one im 22 now but just ignore their bull just ignore it if you are happy that is allthat matters honey
    Mrs.Owen86

    Answer by Mrs.Owen86 at 2:07 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • i had my daughter 11 days after my 18th birthday. it was hard at first. i dropped out of high school. sulked for a while then bounced back and graduated with my class. but my mom played a big role as far as support i mean its hard but the love that you start to feel and the excitement that in a lil while you will get to hold that beautiful baby will overcome any shame or regret that you will ever have. just stick with it and ignore what other people say. who cares anyway
    etsmom0707

    Answer by etsmom0707 at 2:09 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • Wow. You know what, we are all still learning how to be us. Whether we are a teen or old lady. Be yourself. Be responsible. (I think you probably already are.) Be happy. Be strong. Be vocal. Don't be afraid to speak up to people. Don't let others intimidate you. Do your OWN research.
    Be your child's advocate. You are the only mom that child has. They need you.
    Continue to grow and develop your personality as you raise your child. It will be damn hard. Don't give up. I don't know if you know God. But this is what keeps me going.
    "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:11-13)


    SusieD250

    Answer by SusieD250 at 2:10 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant. I told my close circle of friends right away. I knew I would need them the most. My best friend went with me to tell my mom. It was hard. But I needed my family's support too. I focused on that at first. Telling the people most important in my life. Then I went to the school counselors and discussed things with them. I was getting ready to start my senior year. We found a way to make sure I graduated before I had the baby in March. I had just enough credits to grad mid year. Once that was situated I focused on getting ready for graduation and the baby. I didn't make a big deal about anyone else. Most people didn't know until I showed up at graduation in June with a baby. The one's who asked, I told them. If they wanted to make fun of me, so be it. I learned to ignore it. And there were a lot of people like that. CONT....
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:17 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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    But there were also some who were supportive. Asking questions instead of spreading rumors. You have to focus on the positive and learn to block out the negative. For me it helped to focus on things one step at a time rather than getting overwhelmed with the big picture. Good luck sweetie.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:17 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • im 17 and the way i told everyone
    im pregnant i did not plan it but im keeping the baby
    if u have a problem with it then u can try adn talk to me but if u go over then line then im done with u
    and as for everyone else in the world the only people who matter is ur family and friends
    if someone u dont know says something tell them
    since when did my life matter to a stranger or just tell them they dont know anything about u or wut u plan on doing so back off
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:33 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • im 18 and pregnant and all my family kept telling me that my whole life was going to be all fucked up and im sure there going to tell you or have told you the same . they wont b happy at first but once the get it in their head that theres nothing they can do about it, your gonna b a mommy they will be more understanding . a baby is a blessing no matter how young you are . just let everyone know that you no its going to be hard but your going to take the bad with the good and do whats best for your baby ......ps congrats!!
    babymomma6

    Answer by babymomma6 at 5:16 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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