Do you regret putting your child up for adoption?

Do you regret giving your child up for adoption, How often do children end up in bad placements.

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:08 PM on Jan. 20, 2009 in Adoption

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  • I really thought hard about giving my child up for adoption! I was young and i knew I couldn't give him the life that I wanted to! I am happy to say that I didn't give him up and if I would've I NOW know that I would have regretted it. Everything always works out in the end and he's a really happy child and doesn't even think about what he doesn't have.

    IDK how many children get placed in bad environments. I do know some people who have adopted and all of the children are in very loving homes.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:12 PM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • yes. I do. I did not realize how hard it would be and continue to be. they dont tell you that part. also my life did get to a better place and actually rather quickly..within a few years. it wasnt like i was a homeless drug addict or something I just didnt have any family emotional support & felt like i couldnt do it. i know now that i could have & things would have been ok. my child didn't end up in a "better" life persay just different then the kids i have now. i hope someday i can explain & apoligize to my child that i thought i was doing the best thing for her at the time even though later it turns out it really wasnt necessary at all.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:37 PM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • YES!!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:49 PM on Jan. 20, 2009

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  • No, I do not regret it. I am very content with my choice. My birthson just turned 8 in Nov. I have a good relationship with him and his parents. I would not have done anything differently then I have. Unfortunately, in the past year I have learned that many (if not most) birthmoms do not feel the same way I do. There are many reasons for this. I am sure several of these ladies can share their stories with you.
    VanessaV

    Answer by VanessaV at 1:00 AM on Jan. 21, 2009

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  • Yes! Although, I would have regretted an abortion a lot more!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:52 AM on Jan. 21, 2009

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  • I regret putting my son up for adoption, looking back i now know that I could have made it with him. I still think about it way too much... it has been just about 5 years but I can't help but to think what if sometimes :(
    mikeyjavimami21

    Answer by mikeyjavimami21 at 8:36 AM on Jan. 21, 2009

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  • not one bit. they are the greatest couple and are all very happy. i have given up 3 not a one do i regret it. i have 3 kids now and working on more. the 3 are all in the same home. my oldest is 18 now. they are very blessed and as i am too that they are providing for my boys what i wouldn't have been able to do.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:13 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

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  • I don't necessarily regret my decision, I know that at that time in my life I blieved I had no options. No family support, no job, my boyfriend didn't have a job - I believed all the things people said about teen pregnancy statistics (I was 17) rather than believing in myself. My son does have a great life. Is it better than what I provide my two children? I don't think I can really say. My two son's are very happy, outgoing, intelligent, children. They never want for anything and I try to give them all the opportunities I can. My other son gets different opportunities. Life is just different than it would have been for all of us.
    blessedwboysx3

    Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 1:25 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

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  • I don't regret the decision, I think it was the best choice given my specific circumstances. If I had more help and wouldn't have had to drop out of school parenting would've been an opton (things really turned around less than 3 yrs. after the adoption so it could've worked). But, I don't dwell on that because it would've changed everything and I wouldn't have had my subsequent children (not the same anyway). I regret not being educated about adoption, how I would feel afterwards, and adoptee issues. I also regret the way I chose the aparents. I think there may have been a better match, but the ones I chose were in no way "bad". So, the only thing I regret is how the adoption was actually handled and not that I chose adoption.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:44 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

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  • Hey anon.."working on more"...to keep?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:34 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

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