Do you have any advice for helping my 8-year-old to stop wetting the bed?

health problem, bedwetter


Asked by Anonymous at 12:47 PM on Jul. 19, 2008 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • My eight year old son occasionally still has accidents at night. We just make sure he goes to the bathroom before bed, and don't make a big deal of it. His body has a reason for this, my son is a sound sleeper and doesn't wake well. Find the reason and try finding a solution. Anger is not the solution because it makes them more scared, and then afraid to tell you.

    Answer by amy_a_98229 at 3:00 PM on Jul. 19, 2008

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  • I have a 7 year old and turning 8 in 2 months. He still does that occasionally. I am sure he doesn't want this happen. My mom said it can be genetic,and yes i wet my bed till i was 14. ( quiet)

    Ask yourself, your family and your husband's side, anyone has bed wetting problem. Blame them. hahaha just kidding. I am sure he will out grow it and mind him to use bathroom before bed time.


    Answer by yoshiki56 at 6:06 PM on Jul. 19, 2008

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  • Sometime kids grow faster then their bladders so if it something that happens every once and a while that might be the problem.

    If it something that happens every night you might want to mention it to the doctor. When my middle child was 4 he wet the bed every night and finally I went to the DR and said I can not take this anymore. We found out that the problem was the opening at the tip of his penis was not big enough, so during the day although he was going to the bathroom it hurt. So he would only go a little and then at night when he was sleeping it would just come out.

    I agree that you should not get angry. Good Luck

    Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 10:55 AM on Jul. 20, 2008

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  • my children have that problem almost everynight. i asked my dr and she said that is very common in children and they usually grow out of it around 9 years of age. my brother and i wet until we were about 15/16 years old, my mom did until she was 16, so i think it might be genetic also.

    Answer by deelyn at 1:30 AM on Jul. 21, 2008

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  • My oldest son wet the bed until he was 9 and I used to set my alarm to take him to the toilet at night, sometimes I caught it sometimes not. The doctor said he was fine just a heavy sleeper. He was embaressed and as I reall very self concious...I think that was the worst for me. I never ever made him feel bad. I would go in and change his sheets and tell him " this is no big deal hun". Good luck!

    Answer by rosetoes at 3:03 PM on Jul. 21, 2008

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  • my son wets the bed but is now on a medication called desmopressin (or ddvap) for the bedwetting. he takes it just at night and it is just the chemical that your body makes to tell your body to hold the urine until morning. some kids dont develop this chemical until later, this just gives him the extra boost. it has worked wonders for our son. he has more confidence, acts out less, and is getting more sleep and is therefore able to concentrate better.

    Answer by mommybutterfly at 4:20 AM on Jul. 22, 2008

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  • I've got one too. He's 7. We tried cutting off drinks 2 hours before bed. And sending him potty a dozen times between dinner and bedtime. It did us no good.

    When my husband worked 2nd shift he would wake my son around 1 am before coming to bed to take him to the potty. That usually worked. In general, my son is such a sound sleeper that he just doesn't wake up to use the bathroom at night.

    We don't scold him for wetting the bed anymore. We see it's pretty much out of his control. He WANTS to wake up dry. For now we have a vinyl sheet. Each morning he gets up, changes his sheets and takes a shower.

    I've read that this problems is pretty common, especially with boys. Their bladder control develops latter than in girls.

    Answer by DawnA72 at 11:29 PM on Jul. 22, 2008

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  • My 8 YO will still wet the bed at times but it is getting so much better than it was a year ago. The doctor said he will outgrow it and I believe he is right. I NEVER made a big deal out of this and NEVER made him feel like he was a terrible person for wetting the bed. I just quietly washed his sheets and made him a fresh bed and that was it. I did make him shower in the morning but he did not mind that. Please do not yell or discipline him. It will get better.

    Answer by momwillandturn at 8:08 AM on Jul. 26, 2008

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  • My DH and I have never belittled our 8 y/o son; nor have we ever made him feel it was his fault, or that there was something wrong with him. However, we're not perfect and we have "yelled" a little bit when we're changing sheets just an hour after bedtime because our son refused to "go" before getting in bed. We're working on that as we realize there's a very short leap in a young boys mind between being yelled at because he refused to "go" before hand, and being yelled at only because he wet the bed. I just thought I'd share just in case someone is thinking " I yelled, but not because he wet the bed." You just can't think that way, the child doesn't rationalize like that and can easily misunderstand the source of the frustration.


    Answer by SpencersMum629 at 12:48 AM on Aug. 1, 2008

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  • Have you tried goodnights or underjams that's what my son wears because he is a very heavy sleeper and me and his dad had the same problem. Try that and just remember it isn't going to be forever even if it feels like it. Good Luck.

    Answer by feverishpink at 1:12 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

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