How do you discipline a developmentally delayed child?

my son is 5 and he has adhd speech issues and other delays my son will not listen to me and does not respect me i need a form of discipline to use that will work

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jencaycol

Asked by jencaycol at 10:55 PM on Jan. 26, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Remove him from places where he is especially disrespectful to you. Leave stores, family gatherings, etc. at the beginning of an episode not when the misbehavior is in full gear. Also ladder up punishments past that "if you talk rude to me we leave, if with that punishment you do not listen further and are nasty to me with your body language then no tv or special toy or book whatever time when we get home. If you are still rude after that then no tv toy etc. tomorrow morning into if necessary later that next day. It's hard. But consistency in punishments works without being earthshattering.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:30 PM on Jan. 26, 2009

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  • Timeouts (consistent) and praising the behavior you want. Consistency, consistency, consistency. ADHD kids need stability.
    jenettyshome

    Answer by jenettyshome at 9:48 AM on Jan. 27, 2009

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  • how would you treat him if he were not delayed. I have two delayed children a girl age 5 and a boy age 4 I don't have any special tactics I do belive in spanking I let them know that what they did was wrong and inappropritae. It works for me cause in my eyes a child is a child if they are delayed or not they will still make mistakes so you just have to explain it to them on their level you can't let disabilities put you in fear to correct a child because of fear of them not understanding trust me my kids understand a lot and what they don't I will explain to them whatever you choose to do like everyone else says consistency is a must!!!
    bbrown404

    Answer by bbrown404 at 10:32 PM on Jan. 31, 2009

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  • Well, i dont have any children with adhd delays, but ny nephew does, my sister and her husband just consistently redirected, lectured, and punished according to severity of what ever he did wrong..Praising the behavior you like when you see it will also set his mind on what he wants to hear and feel like...My nephew is now 13 and he doesnt take the meds anymore..He went into a special program for kids with disiplinary issues, Per the threat from mom and dad, and after six weeks of hard work, this boy is a different child..Sometimes you just have to be consistent and wait out his attitude of "me against the world"...Many of his problems were how he perceived he was being treated...He learned that the world is not against him at home!!!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:02 AM on Jul. 2, 2009

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  • I have one who is 10 now, he is more like 7. It is hard cause he dos a lot out of frustration. Time outs work pretty good, you have to get them redirected and they have to learn that there are consequences to their actions, it might take a little longer, but with repetition they will catch on. Spanking does nothing for my son, but to make it worse, I have different discipline techniques for all three.
    dmesterse

    Answer by dmesterse at 2:13 PM on Aug. 28, 2009

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