If you marry a man with kids, is his child support also your obligation?

Yes, this is based off a previous question. Many of the moms said that if woman marries a man with kids, whether he knows about them or not, his child support obligation is the new wife's obligation as well. How and why? Whether she loves them or not, someone else's kids are not her financial responsibility. I understand all that two becoming one stuff, but how is it fair that someone gets her taxes yanked for some other chick's kid just because she is now married to the father?

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:35 PM on Jan. 29, 2009 in Money & Work

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  • And before I get bashed, I am a woman who is on the recieving end of child support with a dead beat ex husband who dodges paying.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:36 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • My my... Well, first of all I would tell you to actually put yourself the in the other woman's shoes. Once you become married, your income supposedly becomes one, therefore, you taxes become one. This is why I avoided men with children when I was dating... Sorry, but it does become your obligation as not only a mother, but as a woman who is watching out for the welfare of any child in the country! That's what we are supposed to do. If you don't like it, find a new guy!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:41 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • If the couple filed a tax return together, then I say tough for the wife...she should have known better than to marry a deadbeat that doesn't take care of his obligations. Perhaps losing her tax return will be enough to make her re-think the marriage before she is also an ex chasing this loser down for his tax return every year.
    mizkaye

    Answer by mizkaye at 7:42 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • Well I am a step mom, and all the children are equals. Put it this way- if something were to happen to the BM, the child would come and live with my husband and myself. If I thought the way you thought- then I am saying that DH has to make and provide all the money that the child requires by himself. So if he get's laid off or injured, that child then gets nothing.
    ZaTa

    Answer by ZaTa at 7:43 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • It just comes with the territory.

    BIMOM21

    Answer by BIMOM21 at 7:44 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • I am the second wife of a divorced man with children. During a short period of time my husband was unemployed due to a layoff. He had a difficult time finding another job of equal pay. During said time he fell behind in his child support. Therefore, for a few years, his tax refunds went to paying off his back child support.

    If I had been employed and filed a joint tax return with him I would have been able to reclaim my portion of the tax refund. The information was clearly stated at the bottom the letter stating that the Child Support Enforcement Agency had received his tax refund on the ex-wife's behalf.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:52 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • WTF?? What is wrong with you ladies??? Why is it HE is always a deadbeat?!?! Arrearages DO NOT make a deadbeat......every situation is different! btw~~there are no good, deadbeat, POS mothers out there too!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:52 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • You don't have to get your taxes yanked, you have to file married yet filing separate and then you file a form called the injured spouse form where by you get your part of the refund.

    norbert

    Answer by norbert at 7:52 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • WTF! Why would you claim you are injured when you are not???? THAT is THE stupidest thing I have ever heard. Anyone who would do that to avoid giving her step child what he deserves and get monthly CS lowered. SHOULD NOT BE A STEP PARENT! YEAH I SAID IT!
    ZaTa

    Answer by ZaTa at 7:56 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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  • WTF! Why would you claim you are injured when you are not???? THAT is THE stupidest thing I have ever heard. Anyone who would do that to avoid giving her step child what he deserves and get monthly CS lowered. SHOULD NOT BE A STEP PARENT! YEAH I SAID IT!


    Why don't you try it sometime...huh? You work your rear off all year to pay for another woman's children......I provide for the ones I gave birth too! Like I said...easier said than done dear!! I be your on the receiving end tho...huh??

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:59 PM on Jan. 29, 2009

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